2005-03-04

The military and society

That there is an estrangement between America’s elite and its military
is well-known.
Here is a book that discusses this estrangement, and
an anonymous review at amazon.com which makes some very good points.

** Roth-Douquet+Schaeffer-AWOL
Kathy Roth-Douquet and Frank Schaeffer,
AWOL:
The Unexcused Absence of America’s Upper Classes from Military Service
and How It Hurts Our Country
,
2006
Washington Post review
[An excerpt from the review (emphasis is added):]

Whether ...
personal connections [between policy makers and the military]
actually affect policy is almost impossible to say,
but common sense supports the authors' assertion that
“the grunt on the ground is best equipped, best trained, and best served
when the opinion makers have a personal stake in his or her well-being.”

...

“When
those who benefit most from living in a country
contribute the least to its defense

and
those who benefit least
are asked to pay the ultimate price,

something happens to the soul of that country.”

...

“We are shortchanging a generation of smart, motivated Americans
who have been prejudiced against service by parents and teachers.
Their parents may think they are protecting their children.
Their teachers may think they are enlightening them.
But perhaps what these young people are being protected from is
maturity,
selflessness, and
the kind of ownership of their country that can give it a better future.”




Some of the “Customer Reviews” for this book at amazon.com
are exceptionally interesting,
showing what real people want to say to
the elite who are constantly telling them what to think, and say.

Here is one of those Customer Reviews which I think
makes some very good points.
His description of the elites is, of course, not 100% accurate,
but does still have a great deal of validity.
(I have lightly edited his review to, in my opinion,
“improve” its grammar and clarity (hope I haven’t missed too much).
Also, some emphasis has been added.
My apologies to its author if I have distorted his intended meaning.)



***** Perhaps working America will wake up and figure out the truth
June 15, 2006
Reviewer: Right-Wing-disliker

AWOL is written by two authors who are sort of on opposite ends of the political spectrum.
They are worried about the future of this nation because the upper class,
the "good" students of our society,
has seen fit not to serve in the military.
To use one of the writer's words,
"the elite's children let the lower class do the heavy lifting".

Both of these authors may see the real danger that lies to America.
Oh, it's not from some foreign army.
The danger is that the lower class kids and parents will figure out that
their military service is merely used
to help blue blood liberal Democrats and rich Republicans
keep power over the lower class in this nation.
Consider this,
Ford motor company executives,
mostly educated at the elite University of Michigan,
will be shipping most of the Ford's good paying assembly line jobs to Mexico
in the coming decade.
America's working class military service in protecting the privileged elites
has resulted in
absolutely no loyalty to America by its elite upper class.
Why protect people who will ultimately do you harm?

This reviewer put in twenty years of service.
I received poor pay for the service.
When attending college I was somewhat ridiculed by some professors
for being part of American imperialism.
This reviewer faced open job discrimination for being a veteran.
This is a direct quote from a corporate recruiter,
"why should we hire a veteran
when we can hire some kid who put themself through school
by working at McDonalds and getting college loans?"

Then an epiphany hit this reviewer.
My military service protected and enriched the people who meant me ill.
My military service enabled employers to discriminate against me.
My military service gave protection to the college professors
who would later belittle my service.
The elites who benefited the most from my military service
had nothing but contempt for my work.


I now tell most lower class children that they are crazy to join the military.
I tell the children at my church that
military service goes to protect college professors and some employers
who may not have their best interests at heart.

In my family I'm known as the veteran.
I make it a point of bringing up the fact that
defending this nation isn't really a good idea.
Why should you put your life on the line for the ACLU?
The ACLU is the same group of people who will sue on behalf of a group of child rapists or Islamic terrorists.
You want to defend them?
That snide college professor, who never did one bit of selfless work in his life,
you want to defend them?
That leftist judge, who let a multiple murderer off with a light sentence,
you want to go through misery in basic training
so he can still give terrible court decisions?
Yes, when the drill sergeant yells at you during an all night patrol
you can take comfort in the fact that
the elites you're protecting are working against your best interests.

The bottom line in life is a lot of traditional American kids give a great deal of time and effort into military service to protect their "Blue" state overlords.
Have no military service but a Harvard education?
Fine, become a leader in the US State department.
Have no military service but received a degree in feminist studies at Princeton?
You can go to the head of the line and become a director of Gender education
at a college, the pay is over $75,000 per year.
Have no military service but have a degree in international business from Stanford? That is O.K. You're qualified to work as a business manager at Ford.
Mexican labor is a fraction of the cost of a worker in the USA.

Now, for you traditional kids who defended this nation and went to college, well, that is no big problem.
The US government might give you preference for lower level government jobs,
such as a postal letter carrier or a prison guard.

Traditional Americans are stupid to join the military
to defend both the rights of the upper class.
There is no profit in it.

And these two upper class American authors have figured this fact out:
military service by the lower class
merely reinforces the power of the privileged elites.


America's privileged elites are not worth the effort to defend.
Let
the ACLU, NOW,
the Democratic Party, the Republican Party,
the leftist judges, the Hollywood elites,
and the rest of the clowns
defend themselves.


This book is thirty years too late.



Articles


2007


2007-07-22-WP-Henderson
Their War
Less than 1 percent of the U.S. population serves in our military.
In a time of war, what should that mean to the rest of us?

By Kristin Henderson
Washington Post Magazine, 2007-07-22

[An excerpt; emphasis is added.]

American civilians no longer seem comfortable
labeling a soldier as both a killer and a hero.

In fact, they’re not particularly comfortable with the military in general.

Less than half the civilian population believes military leaders can be relied on to respect civilian control of the military, according to surveys by the Triangle Institute for Security Studies, an academic think tank in North Carolina. Never mind that 92 percent of military leaders still insist their civilian masters should have the final say on whether to use military force. And while nearly two-thirds of military leaders believe they share the same values as the American people, only about one-third of their civilian counter-parts agree. The vast majority of civilians believe service members are intolerant, stingy, rigid and lacking in creativity. More than 20 percent report they’d be disappointed if their children joined the military.

Before the invasion of Iraq,
the editorial boards of major newspapers endorsed the use of force,
yet a search turned up
no calls for Americans to join up to support the effort.
President Bush urged civilians to go shopping.


“The military is at war, but the country is not,”
warns University of Maryland sociologist David Segal.
“And the military resents that.”

...



VIETNAM WAS THE TURNING POINT.

In the heat of an unpopular war, decades of social trends boiled over: the development of relativistic theologies, growing legal emphasis on the rights of the individual and the emergence of the teenage years as a time free from both parental restrictions and adult responsibilities.
These trends empowered and united war opponents with a moral certainty
that surpassed anything seen during previous conflicts,
as described by Frank Schaeffer and Kathy Roth-Douquet in
AWOL:
The Unexcused Absence of America’s Upper Classes From Military Service --
and How It Hurts Our Country
.


In Vietnam, Gen. William Westmoreland lied about body counts, and American soldiers massacred women and children at My Lai. Vietnam taught its generation to distrust the military. The collective memory of Vietnam’s luckless, disadvantaged draftees, forced to fight a politically polarizing war, and the certainty of the protesters that they were right to oppose it, still shape civilian American attitudes toward the military. While pre-Vietnam generations saw military service as an apolitical civic duty, Schaeffer points out that today’s civilians tend to see it as a career choice for the underprivileged, a choice that also depends on whether they approve of the policies of the moment.

“The new excuse is, I’d never send my son to fight in Iraq,” says Schaeffer. An author with no military background who lives in an affluent area near Boston, Schaeffer also blames the lingering priorities of the Me Generation. “My class are dismissive of anything other than the glittering fast track of money.”

Statistically, recruits are less likely to come from affluent Zip codes such as those in many Washington area suburbs. Some claim this is because military recruiters target the poor. But recruiters are not welcome in most affluent neighborhoods.

...

Civilian and military researchers have confirmed that recruiters are not targeting the very rich, but neither are they aiming at the very poor -- the privileged aren’t interested, and the disadvantaged can’t handle the increasingly technical training. It’s the middle they’re after.

...

Until Vietnam, the military broke down along the same political lines as the rest of the country, about one-third independent, one-third Democratic, one-third Republican. The enlisted ranks still do. But in the past 30 years, the officer corps has undergone a revolution. In the most recent comprehensive study, conducted in the late 1990s by the Triangle Institute for Security Studies, Republican officers outnumbered Democrats 8 to 1. In 2006, only 16 percent of Army Times active-duty readers, who are mostly senior in rank, declared themselves Democrats.

Contrary to a common misperception, minorities are only slightly overrepresented in the military, making up 35 percent of service personnel compared to about 33 percent of the general population.

Overall, recruits tend to come from small towns. And, while these small towns often have a boarded-up factory, family incomes indicate that those joining the military are the upwardly mobile working middle class.

There’s clearly some self-selection going on, too, because nearly half of all Army recruits are following in the footsteps of a parent who has served. We seem to be creating an American warrior class.

Yet, historically, America’s military has always been small, volunteer and professional in peacetime, swelling with draftees in times of war. Large, professional standing armies made the Founding Fathers nervous, because they had watched the monarchs of imperial Europe use armies to oppress their own people, writes military historian Russell Weigley. So, until recently, whenever we needed an army big enough to do real damage we relied on conscription.

Even today’s all-volunteer force, designed in the 1960s and launched when Congress repealed the draft in 1973, was originally based on that pattern. “The blueprint says when we’re in a situation like the one we’re in now -- a large-scale, protracted war, with more than a hundred thousand deployed, lasting longer than six months -- that would trigger a draft,” says sociologist Segal, who directs Maryland‘s Center for Research on Military Organization. “We’re asking the volunteer force to do something it was never designed to do.”

The 1991 Persian Gulf War, and now Afghanistan and Iraq, are the first major wars America has fought with an all-volunteer force. For a democracy, it’s a huge experiment in the art of waging war.

“In a democratic society, the army is a people’s army, a reflection of the popular will,” Segal explains. “Military operations cannot be successful in the long run without popular support.”

To some degree, the gap between the military and the people has been masked by one of the other lessons of Vietnam: Don’t blame the soldiers for the military misadventures of our civilian leaders. Today’s peace marchers generally take care to chant that they support the troops, not the war. But Segal worries that the military’s low visibility in American society is leading to estrangement. “People say they support the troops, but I don’t know how long one can sustain that if one doesn’t know what a soldier is.”

In a nation of more than 300 million people, less than 1 percent serve in all the armed forces combined, active duty and reserve. Compare that to previous wartimes: 4 percent served during Vietnam, 12 percent during World War II, 11 percent during the Civil War. Today, in many neighborhoods, civilians can go about their lives without ever crossing paths with someone on active duty. Even in military towns, connections are hard to sustain -- active-duty service members move every three years, on average. “They’re coaching youth soccer, serving as deacons, volunteering in the schools,” Segal says. “But if they’re deployed, you lose your deacon.” Meanwhile, rootless military children are always the new kid, rarely graduating from the same high school where they started as freshmen.

More and more in America, civilians have no contact with the people who do the fighting, yet civilians are the ones who decide when and where those people fight. What happens to a democracy when its civilians live in one world and its warriors in another?



MOST OF OUR CIVILIAN POLITICAL ELITES
GRADUATE FROM ELITE CIVILIAN UNIVERSITIES.
Not so our military leaders. Not these days.

...

In 1956, during the draft era, 400 members of Princeton‘s graduating class of 750 went into the military; five decades later, Princeton led the Ivy League by producing all of nine new officers. It’s been this way since the angry college protest days of Vietnam.

Back then, as America’s elites were deferring their way out of military service, so were America’s elite universities. Faculty and student leaders argued that ROTC was an academically limited program that shut down discussion instead of broadening the free and open exchange of ideas. In 1969, the Yale faculty voted to stop giving academic credit for military science courses, which are taught by the military officers who run ROTC and are open to any student, not only cadets. In response, the military closed down the Yale ROTC programs. The same thing happened at many leading schools nationwide.

As a result, students such as Day who attend schools such as Yale, Harvard and Stanford have to go somewhere else to find the military science classes and physical training that their ROTC scholarships require. The Army runs ROTC programs at other Connecticut schools, close enough to Yale that the two cadets can get to them. The University of Connecticut and Sacred Heart University, for instance, are a reasonable driving distance away. But Yale’s isolation is underscored by the fact that a state institution such as UConn hosts more than five dozen cadets, compared with Yale’s two.

Congress launched ROTC during World War I to standardize the education of America’s citizen soldiers. Along with the National Guard and Reserves, ROTC acts as one of the few connecting threads that weave the military into the broader fabric of society -- cadets live, learn and socialize alongside civilian students, building relationships and helping to ensure that the military and civilian communities each have a stake in the other.

But since the end of the draft in ‘73, the percentage of officers educated in the isolated bubble of the military academies, instead of in ROTC, has doubled. This is producing an officer corps that collectively is less and less representative of the civilian world it serves, a trend observed by professor and national security specialist Michael Desch.

A similar process is occurring on the civilian side. Since 1992, continuing another trend that started early in the last century, five of the six Republican and Democratic nominees for president have held a degree from Yale or Harvard -- Ivy League schools have become the incubators of our top civilian leadership. The absence of military science classes and cadets from those campuses means our future civilian leaders are less likely to learn about military issues and have fewer opportunities to get to know the officers they will one day command.

The consequences appear to be suspicion and stereotyping. Those Triangle Institute for Security Studies surveys reveal that only 1 percent of military leaders think civilian leaders are very knowledgeable about the military. More than one-third of civilian leaders believe the military is dishonest, and fewer than half believe it’s attracting high-quality recruits.

The military and civilian camps must work together on life-and-death issues that face the country, yet, increasingly, they neither understand nor trust each other.

...

















2010


2010-05-24-WP-Flag-officers-in-civilian-executive-branch-jobs
Former military officials' performance in administration questioned
By Anne E. Kornblut and Scott Wilson
Washington Post, 2010-05-24

[It would be nice if there were a rebuttal to this
from the point of view of military officers.
Unfortunately, the absence of retired flag officers from our chattering classes
is breathtaking.]

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2005-02-06

Society

The system or mode of life adopted by a body of individuals
for the purpose of harmonious co-existence
or for mutual benefit, defence, etc.

— OED












2008


2008-12-14-Walsh
They're Having Babies. Are We Helping?
By Patrick Welsh
Washington Post Outlook, 2008-12-14















2010


2010-04-09-NYT-Phoebe-Prince
Documents Detail a Girl’s Final Days of Bullying
By ERIK ECKHOLM and KATIE ZEZIMA
New York Times, 2010-04-09





2010-04-09-MacDonald-Dissolution-of-the-Family
The Dissolution of the Family among Non-Elite Whites
by Kevin MacDonald
The Occidental Observer Blog, 2010-04-09

Labels:

2005-02-05

Selling cultural/social decay

It is fairly universally accepted that boys brought up by single mothers
are far more likely to slip into dysfunction
than those brought up by both their biological parents.
This is a point raised by many of those concerned about
social dysfunction in our society.
So why are so many mothers trying to raise their children
without benefit of the child’s biological father?
A convenient, and no doubt partly true, answer is to blame it all on
irresponsibility of the male (all too often a minor) who fathered the child.
But, wonder of wonders, in some cesspools of the social sciences,
there are some harpies who are
actively encouraging girls and adult women
to raise their children without benefit of their father,

assigning the highest priority to
“what is good for the woman”
rather than
what is good for the child or for society at large.

Clearly,

Feminism = female selfishness, egotism, and narcissism

















2009


2009-05-14-WP-Stein-St.-George-unwed-mothers
Number of Unwed Mothers Has Risen Sharply in U.S.
Women in 20s, 30s Are Driving Trend, Report Shows
By Rob Stein and Donna St. George
Washington Post, 2009-05-14

[1]
Katrina Stanfield, 25,
is raising her 3-year-old daughter in Middletown, Md.,
without a husband because
she and her boyfriend decided that marriage would not work for them.

[2]
Heidy Gonzalez, 21,
is living with her two children and their father in Mount Rainier [Maryland],
but tying the knot is not a priority for them now.

[3]
Emily Smatchetti, 38,
is a single mother of a toddler in Miami because
she had not found the right man and worried that time was running out.
So she found a sperm donor.

[4]
The mothers are part of a far-reaching social trend
unfolding across the United States:
The number of children being born out of wedlock
has risen sharply in recent years,

driven primarily by women in their 20s and 30s
opting to have children without getting married.
Nearly four out of every 10 births are now to unmarried women.

[5]
“It’s been a huge increase -- a dramatic increase,”
said Stephanie J. Ventura of the National Center for Health Statistics,
which documented the shift in detail yesterday for the first time,
based on an analysis of birth certificates nationwide.
“It’s quite striking.”

[6]
Although the report did not examine the reasons for the increase,
Ventura and other experts cite a confluence of factors,
including
a lessening of the social stigma associated with unmarried motherhood,
an increase in couples delaying or forgoing marriage, and
growing numbers of financially independent women and older and single women
deciding to have children on their own after delaying childbearing.

[7]
“I think this is the tipping point,”
said Rosanna Hertz,
a professor of sociology and women’s studies at Wellesley College.
“This is becoming increasingly the norm.
The old adage that
‘first comes love,
then comes marriage,
then comes baby in the baby carriage’
just no longer holds true.”

[Wellesley College, in its “Faculty Expert Resources List”,
lists her as an expert on the following topics:
Divese families, Gender stereotypes, Families, Motherhood and fatherhood,
Nontraditional families, Single mothers, Social inequality, Women and work.
She is, naturally, a Jewish woman.

The web page just linked to includes the following paragraph:

“The presence of many Jewish women among current sociologists
is likely to be noted, if at all,
not because these women study Jewish themes
but because of their Jewish-sounding names (e.g.,
Muriel Cantor, Nancy Chodorow, Janet Saltzman Chafetz, Roberta S. Cohen, Arlene Kaplan Daniels, Eva Etzioni, Zelda Gamson, Nona Glazer, Rosanna Hertz, Beth Hess, Ruth Jacobs, Charlotte Schwartz, and Lenore Weitzman).
In fact, locating Jews for research purposes
by identifying Jewish-sounding names
is an accepted practice among sociologists.”]




[8]
The trend has unfolded
despite decades of political and social hand-wringing over the issue,
such as
Vice President Dan Quayle [41]’s attack on
the unmarried television mother Murphy Brown,
President Bill Clinton [42]’s revamp of welfare and
President George W. Bush [43]’s focus on “family values.”
President Obama [44] has said that one of his priorities is reducing abortions,
in part by helping women who become pregnant and want to keep their children.



[9]
Some experts said
the trend represents a positive change for many women,
allowing them to avoid becoming social outcasts,
being forced to give up their babies for adoption or having abortions, and
letting them raise children in nontraditional families.

[10]
“Women can have children on their own, and
it’s not going to destroy your employment, and
it’s not going to mean that you’ll be made a pariah by the community,”
Hertz said.
“It’s much more socially acceptable.”



[11]
But others said the trend is disturbing because
children who grow up without stable, two-parent families
tend not to fare as well in many ways.

[12]
“I look at this and say,
maybe this trend is what young adults want or stumble into,
but it’s not in the best interest of children,”
said Sarah Brown, chief executive of
the National Campaign to Prevent Teen and Unplanned Pregnancy.



[13]
About 1.7 million babies were born to unmarried women in 2007,
a 26 percent rise from 1.4 million in 2002 and
more than double the number in 1980, according to the new report.
Unmarried women accounted for 39.7 percent of all U.S. births in 2007 --
up from 34 percent in 2002 and
more than double the percentage in 1980.

[14]
“If you see 10 babies in the room,
four them were born to women who were not married,”
Ventura said.

[15]
Although experts have been concerned about
a recent uptick in births to older teenagers after years of decline,
that is not the driving force in the overall trend
but more likely a reflection of it,
Ventura said.
Instead, much of the rise is due to
significant increases in births among unmarried women in their 20s and 30s.
Between 2002 and 2006,
the rate at which unmarried women in that age group were having babies
increased between 13 percent and 34 percent, the report found.

[16]
The rates increased for all races,
but they remained highest and rose fastest for Hispanics and blacks.
There were
106 births to every 1,000 unmarried Hispanic women in 2006,
72 per 1,000 blacks,
32 per 1,000 whites and
26 per 1,000 Asians,
the report showed.

[17]
The percentage of babies born to unmarried women in the United States
is starting to look more like that in many European countries,
the data shows.
For example, the proportion of babies born to unmarried women is about
66 percent in Iceland,
55 percent in Sweden,
50 percent in France and
44 percent in the United Kingdom.

[18]
In many of those countries,
couples are living together instead of getting married,
which is also the case in the United States.
Previous research indicates that
about 40 percent of births to unmarried women
occur in households where couples are cohabitating.

[19]
Gonzalez, the mother who lives with her children’s father in Mount Rainier,
said marriage has not loomed as a necessity for them.
“Time goes by and we think about other stuff -- and we think about rent,”
[Gee, do they ever think about the cost over, say, twenty years
of raising a child?]

she said.
This holds true, she said, for most of her friends.
“Most of the people I know just live with their baby’s father or boyfriend
and don’t get married,” she said.

[20]
Other couples today feel less compelled to marry
just because they are having a child.

[21]
“It seems to be more wrong to be in a marriage
with someone who you don’t love and consider to be your best friend
than not to be in a marriage at all,”
said Barbara Katz Rothman
[interview;
her Wikipedia profile categorizes her, among other things, as
a “Jewish woman writer” and
an “African Americans’ rights activist”]
,
a professor of sociology at the City University of New York.
“It’s not that people care less about marriage.
In some ways, it’s because they care more.”

[Yeah, yeah, but this is about having children, not just being in relationships.]



[22]
Stanfield and her boyfriend tried living together after she got pregnant,
but he moved out
when it became clear to both of them that they were not compatible,
she said.

[23]
“He’s a good dad and a good person, but he’s just not right for me,”
Stanfield said.

[24]
In New Carrollton, Natrice McKenzie, 25, a teller supervisor at a bank,
said she did not set out to become a single mother but has no regrets.

[25]
“Getting married was something I had in mind,
but that basically was not what happened,”
said McKenzie, pregnant with her third child.
She said it can be difficult, and she knows she is far from unique.
“Nowadays it’s becoming more like, single moms are everywhere,”
she said.

[26]
Alana Hill, 33, sees family history as an important influence.
A single mother in Silver Spring who works as a dancer and a dance teacher,
Hill was raised by a single mother
and was part of a large extended family
in which most of the mothers were not married.
Except for grandparents,
“I didn’t have a role model of a husband and a wife who were married for years,”
she said.
Even when she was very young,
her foremost wish, she said, was motherhood, not marriage.
“I knew I wanted a child,” she said.

[27]
Smatchetti, who works as a U.S. attorney in Miami,
said she is glad that she had the option of using a sperm donor
after a long-term relationship ended.

[28]
“I didn’t want to pick the wrong person just to have kid,
so I just decided to go ahead and do it and work on the relationship later,”
she said.
“It’s hard, but in a good way.”

[Note how the reporters end the story.]





2009-08-12-WP-Shapira-Carrington
Caring for Body, Mind and Baby
Program for Teen Mothers Includes Psychotherapy
By Ian Shapira
Washington Post, 2009-08-12, page B-1

[1.1]
In the living room of a converted brick ranch house in Manassas,
three teenage girls sat around a large sofa,
sifting through the intimate complications of their lives.
All three had moved into the home,
now the E. Carrington Family Enrichment Center,
because they were either pregnant or had recently become a mother
and also had a diagnosed mental health disorder.

[from paragraph 2.2:
“ranging from
anxiety, depression, conduct disorder, post-traumatic syndrome
to attention deficit disorder.”]

[1.2]
Yet the scrutiny they faced from house parent Peggy Jennings,
a former Lorton prison official,
could have applied to any teenager in a troubled relationship.

[1.3]
“What is [your boyfriend] doing?”
Jennings asked a 16-year-old teen mother [called “J’s Mom” below]
who was holding a bottle of baby formula in the mouth of her 3-month-old boy.
“Where does your relationship stand?”

[1.4]
“He wants to take my relationship to a higher level,”
the young mother responded.

[1.5]
“How old is he?” asked another girl, 18,
who at the time was due any day.

[1.6]
“He’s almost 18.
He wants me to live with him,”
the young mother said, her voice rising in confidence.

[1.7]
“If you start playing house,
that’s what you’ll be doing,”
Jennings said, her voice softening.
“I had a baby at 22.
Even then, it was frightening.
I played house.
You lose sight of yourself.
Somewhere inside you, you must say,
‘I want to be better.’ ”

[1.8]
The young mother, her baby enfolded in her arms, nodded.
She was sensing a new maturity.

...



[4.1]
But it is their group talks on relationships that elicit the most chatter.
As Jennings wrapped up a session,
she told them that
the fathers of their children
might not be the most suitable life partners.


[4.2]
“You’re 16. You’re going to have a couple more relationships,”
Jennings said.

[4.3]
“It’s funny you mention that,” J’s Mom said.
“There’s a couple people who want to be with me.”

[4.4]
Jennings looked at her with a sternness that bordered on reproach.
“Right now, you got school.
Then you got to get a job.
God is making you stronger,”
she said, before adding words that seemed to them
as enigmatic as their fates:
“Tears, then joy. Tears, then joy.”



2009-08-24-NR-Currie-Five-Decades-of-Crisis
Five Decades of Crisis
The persistent, alarming link between illegitimacy and poverty
by Duncan Currie
National Review, 2009-08-24

Sometimes, a crisis lasts so long, or proves so impervious to remedy,
that it becomes normal.
We are now 44 years removed from Daniel Patrick . . .

[This is not about
the selling of the alarming (to most rational people) rise in the illegitimacy rate,
but rather about the consequences of that rise.
But because some people,
especially in the “social sciences” in the academic sector,
do not seem alarmed at all by the rise,
but rather view it as a “victory for women”,
I am including this link here.
Unfortunately to actually read the article
you will need access to an online database;
at universities that should not be a problem.]




2009-09-04-Dvorak
Reality Makes Gay Marriage Debate Obsolete
By Petula Dvorak
Washington Post, 2009-09-04

[Here are some excerpts, with comments.]

[T]heir marriage is the envy of many of their fellow mommy friends.

Right after Lisa had their first boy,
Stefanie gave birth to their second.

What woman wouldn’t kill
for her husband to endure kankles, nausea and stretch marks
just as she was battling the baby blues?

[This is an argument for permitting gay marriage?]

Their effect [I presume the effect of “the kids”, not of the “kankles, etc.”]
on the children of their heterosexual friends and neighbors?
Many report that
their own children -- including one of my own --
were jealous that
Lisa and Stefanie’s kids “got to make two Mommy’s Day cards.”


...

[And that’s as much as Dvorak says on that topic.
But, even if it is true, look at what it omits:
If the children of the lesbian moms
are delighted that they “got to make two Mommy’s Day cards”
how will they feel
when Father’s Day rolls around, other kids have a dad to make a card for,
but they have none?
And, pursuing Ms. Dvorak’s analogy,
how will the other children make the children without father’s feel?


What Dvorak can’t even bring herself to mention in this column
is the academic research and intuitive understanding
that shows that children, especially male children,
do better when they have a male role model in their immediate family.
It is absolutely typical of the way the Post biases its stories
that it omits this important item of knowledge.


If I might be permitted a personal note,
my mother divorced my father when I was one,
and raiseed me, with the help of her parents,
from then until she married a fine man when I was eleven,
who, fortunately for me, was a wonderful step-father.
But during those growing-up years from one to eleven,
I lacked a resident Dad, a fact which I much regretted.

Men are regarded by all those male-bashing women (of whom there have been plenty)
as “insensitive” and “clueless” when they overlook
what feminists claim to be the women’s point of view.
So what does that make Dvorak
when she can’t even see, or at least state,
that boys want a man in the family, someone to look up to?]




2013

2013-09-27-Kirby-Paula-Patton-self-absorbtion
The 2013-09-27 edition of the Washington Express has a review
(which does not seem to be on the web, at least as of 2013-10-04)
by their film critic Kirsten Page-Kirby
of the newly released movie Baggage Claim staring Paula Patton.
That review contains a number of quotations of Paula Patton,
evidently speaking in her own voice in an interview, perhaps with Ms. Page-Kirby.
In any case, the review ends with the following [but the emphasis is added]:
The film is less about finding happiness in a relationship,
Patton says,
than about Montana [the character in the movie Ms. Patton plays]’s efforts
to find happiness alone.

“She is losing sight of her own happiness,”
Patton says.
“She just wants to fit in; her decisions aren’t based on making herself happy.
I think it’s something we see all the time with young women.
Through this journey, she finds herself and finds confidence in saying,
‘I don’t need a man to complete me.’
Men should be a dessert, frankly.”

Patton seems to be rejecting what used to be the way women used to be brought up,
to fit in and to place other people’s happiness above their own.

I agree with that rejection in one specific area:
I think it led to an unfair failure by some men, certainly including myself,
to consider women’s sexual happiness as being equally important to that of men.

(This problem was not entirely due to the selfishness of men.
There was a strong reluctance in those days to talk explicitly about the situation, rejecting talk about
1) the importance of sexually satisfying women,
2) the methods and techniques for achieving that goal and
3) the specific structure of women instrumental to that goal.
Cluelessness of men in this area was not necessarily of their own choice,
but due to the desire of women to keep such matters literally concealed.
What little knowledge men of my generation gained about the female anatomy
came from the pages of Playboy and Penthouse,
neither of which was noticeably concerned about
the issue of female sexual happiness.)

I don’t consider placing greater emphasis on women’s sexual happiness
as being at all detrimental to anything important in our society.
However in other areas, that change in female attitudes
has led to great social and economic harm in areas of importance.

Sure, women can place their own happiness as issue number one.
Sure, women can say “I don’t need a man to complete me”
or “Men are just a dessert”.
Indeed, many women in, for example, Arlington, Virginia
seem to take exactly that attitude.
But where does that lead in terms of preserving and continuing their line?
It leads to racial extinction of the line of those making those claims.
(In larger terms, consider the fertility rate of non-Hispanic white women in America.)

On the importance of men, certainly artificial insemination
avoids the need to have direct sexual intercourse with a man to make a woman pregnant.
But how about raising the child?
Single motherhood may be fine for those women who are wealthy,
for example, to name some perhaps not totally irrelevant examples to
the views expressed in the Washington Post,
Katharine Graham, Lally Weymouth, and Katharine Weymouth,
who can afford to hire people to help in raising their children.
But I will be bold enough to assert that our society simply cannot afford
to make a large percentage of women that wealthy
while simultaneously being competitive with societies
whose women do not make such extravagant demands on the society,
and who are willing to place to larger social good ahead of
their own immediate happiness.

Finally, one may, and indeed should, consider the question of “Just what makes a woman happy?”
Feminists, and I certainly have experience with them, place issues such as “personal growth” and power, both economic and inter-personal,
as practically sine qua non’s (or perhaps I should say sine quibus non)
for their own happiness.
But the many of the women of the 1950s claimed they found happiness and contentment precisely in performing the classical women’s roles of the 1950s,
through seeing their families develop well, seeing their children,
and perhaps their husbands, grow and develop.
(The abandonment of that position was certainly pushed along by
cultural and media elites,
e.g., those controlling and writing the New York Times and Washington Post.)

One can argue which approach is “fairer” or “more just” for women.
But one thing that one cannot argue with is that
Putting women’s happiness first leads to
eventual extinction of the line of those women.













2019

2019-10-09-NYT-Normal-Sucks
At Risk in the Culture of ‘Normal’
By Jonathan Mooney, Mr. Mooney is the author of “Normal Sucks.”
New York Times Opinion, 2019-10-09

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