Lovely ladies
posted by KHarbaugh at 12:00
2004-06-25
2004-06-20
Female sexual satisfaction
Do unto others
as you would have them
do unto you
The Golden Rule, or
the ethic of reciprocity
As I interpret it, that would imply that:
- If
- a man uses a woman’s body for his sexual pleasure (“do unto others”)
- then
- he should ensure that his body is used for hers (“do unto you”).
Carrying this to an extreme (which, in fact, in some cases is very justifiable),
I would paraphrase President Kennedy:
Ask not what pussy can do for you,
but ask what you can do for pussy.
For some possible ways to enhance female sexual satisfaction,
you might find of interest
“Positions for cunnilingus” and
“Cowgirls.”
There is also an interesting web site: Sexuality Source, run by Dr. Yvonne K. Fulbright.
Miscellaneous Articles
2010
2010-01-30-WP-Hesse-G-Spot
New research snub of G spot leaves many hot and botheredBy Monica Hesse
Washington Post Style Section, 2010-01-30
[An excerpt; emphasis is added.]
Earlier this month, British researchers decided that the spot
was either completely fictitious or completely subjective.
Earlier this week,
some 1,000 French gynecologists at a conference on the G spot decided that
the English needed to keep looking.
...
The trouble is that
the study of female sexuality
is notoriously underdeveloped and notoriously complex ...
...
[T]he G spot remains an elusive Snuffleupagus of sex studies:
utterly real to some women,
a baffling, shame-inducing fantasy to others.
Every few years, another study comes out saying that
it’s been found or it hasn’t,
and either way some portion of the female population
is left feeling, somehow, wrong.
...
[For considerable further information on this subject,
especially a 30-minute video of women attesting to
their personal experiences with their G-spot,
please see the post “The G-spot”.]
2015
2015-02-13-WP-Kristen-Page-Kirby-fifty-shades-of-grey
I felt dirty watching ‘Fifty Shades of Grey’ —and not because of the sex
by Kristen Page-Kirby
Washington (Post) Express Reelist, 2015-02-13
[Kristen Page-Kirby makes several points about
women, sex, and stereotypes about
gender differences in attitudes towards sex
that I (who is male) that I had suspected,
but had not found many places where women made these thoughts explicit.
For that reason I am reprinting most of her column,
not because I think this movie is significant,
or out of approval of BDSM,
but so there is no chance that
I take some of her remarks out of context.
Anyhow, I have emphasized what I considered significant,
and added some remarks on why that was so.]
OK, yes, I read “Fifty Shades of Grey.”
Everyone else was doing it,
and it was supposed to be so amazing!
Women! Reading things! About sex! Imagine!
[That is amazing???]
And now the movie tries to continue that sense of amazement,
the wonder that women might want to see a movie about sex.
Kinky sex, at that!
Too bad that sex is the last thing that “Fifty Shades” is about.
Christian Grey (Jamie Dornan) is a super-powerful mogul
whose sexual tastes include and are limited to BDSM —
bondage, domination, sadism and masochism
(all with the full consent of his partners).
Anastasia Steele (Dakota Johnson) is
an essentially powerless and untouched woman —
she’s a virgin and says she’s never done “other stuff” —
whose sexual tastes include … well, we’re not quite sure what she likes.
At one point she REALLY likes a peacock feather,
but the choice to get down and birdy isn’t hers.
The message of “Fifty Shades” is harmful.
Not the BDSM stuff:
What consenting adults get down to in the bedroom
(or in the living room or on the kitchen table)
is perfectly fine as long as they don’t wake the neighbors.
But “Fifty Shades” relies on the same tired tropes we’ve seen a thousand times,
the same messages we’ve heard from sources as varied as
religious fundamentalists and Nicholas Sparks novels:
Women’s sexuality is pure and something to be controlled.
Men’s sexuality is something to be feared and, eventually, tamed.
Moreover,
women should have no sexual urges
until they arrive at heterosexual-partnered sex,
at which point the man and his magical member appear
and it’s orgasms for everyone, every time!
Men, on the other hand, are not only expected
to start their sexual lives early,
but their sexuality permeates every aspect of their lives:
business, romance, shopping for hardware
(not a joke! Actually happens in the movie!).
[Several points might be of interest.
First, from the traditional Christian point of view,
those gender differences do not exist.
In much of traditional Christianity,
sex outside of marriage was adultery and thus a sin,
for both men and women.
Chastity until marriage was expected of both men and women.
Second, in the secular culture,
which to me amounted to what I could glean from various print media,
books and magazines, growing up in the 1950s and 60s,
some of such stereotypical expectations did exist.
We were told about "Don Juans", based on Mozart's Don Giovanni.
We were told that some men wanted to "score."
(Which was defined to be male penetration to male orgasm.
The concept of women having their own sexual desires,
and their own right to obtain pleasure to their orgasm,
sadly did not exist, in at least the world I was brought up in.)
Such talk permeated the media
(but certainly not my home environment, my church,
or either the high school or college I attended).
Third, at least as of 2014, a new view of adolescent male sex
is being propounded by various responsible figures.
Now a male high school student who has sex with a significantly older woman
is viewed as a victim.
Somehow this damages the poor little thing.
This viewing of young men as potential victims
was brought to my attention
in the case of Molly Shattuck being accused of committing a crime in her acts,
and in the elaborate justification for viewing her actions as such
in the relevant Boston Sun editorial
and practically everything else I have read about this situation
in the print media.
The media does mention that some people do not view her acts as criminal,
but they are not the designated "experts" that are mainly quoted.
A further example is given by the prosecution in Louisiana
of two nice-looking high school English teachers
who had sex with one of their students.
Interesting, to me at least,
is that the student did not consider the sex he had with his teachers as a crime,
but, not to worry, the responsible authorities,
presumably responding to community pressure,
do consider it criminal.
Well, whatever your attitude on this matter is,
criminalizing adult women who have sex with teen-age boys
seems inconsistent with
the "expectations" that Kristen described in her article above.
Fourth,
should boys be lauded for being "studs",
while girls are criticized for being "sluts"?
I think not.
That does seem to be clear discrimination.
Fifth,
I believe that men should be expected to give women the same sexual pleasure they receive,
and be given appropriate instruction and support to enable them to succeed in that task.]
...
Add that to
the overly simplistic, incredibly repetitious message of the film —
he completes her with his penis,
she fixes him with her purity —
and “Fifty Shades” is nothing new.
It’s a message we’ve been beaten with before.
2016
2016-03-01-NYT-female-viagra-addyi-flibanserin-sex-drive-women
‘Female Viagra’ Only Modestly Increases Sexual Satisfaction, Study FindsBy SABRINA TAVERNISE
New York Times, 2016-03-01
...
In the new study, published in JAMA Internal Medicine,
researchers found benefits that were slightly more modest than
those submitted to the F.D.A. during the approval process.
The researchers analyzed eight studies of about 5,900 women,
using a method that involved pooling the data.
They concluded that treatment with flibanserin, now marketed as Addyi, resulted in
“one-half of an additional sexually satisfying encounter per month.”
(The study did not define what “one-half” of a sexually satisfying encounter was.)
That result was not very different from the original findings of three clinical trials submitted to the F.D.A. as support for the drug’s approval.
Those trials found that once women started taking the drug,
they had an average of about one additional satisfying sexual encounter a month,
on top of the two to three they were having already.
That result lifted the benefits above the bar of being scientifically meaningful, but only barely.
Still, it was enough for the agency’s approval.
...
posted by KHarbaugh at 12:00
Female sexual dysfunction
2010
2010-06-17-NYT-female-sexual-desire-drug
Push to Market Pill Stirs Debate on Sexual DesireBy DUFF WILSON
New York Times, 2010-06-17
[1]
Ever since Viagra met blockbuster success in 1998,
the drug industry has sought a similar pill for women.
...
In results reported last fall at a medical conference in Europe,
the drug was found to increase self-reported “sexually satisfying events” to
4.5 a month on average.
The reported events, which did not have to include orgasm, compared with
3.7 a month by women taking a placebo and
2.7 by those who did not take any pills.
[I am a man, and so have the problem of
zero personal knowledge of the subject of female sexual desire,
and no doubt a strong bias as to my attitude towards the subject.
But with that problem and bias stated, let me go on to say that
I think that’s just a real shame.
Let me give several alternative data points.
I read a book by a female psychiatrist at U. Virginia
[Dr. Anita H. Clayton]
who gave lots of case studies.
She gave examples of women who could
regularly, reliably experience orgasm after, get this,
roughly a minute of stimulation from their “Wascally Wabbit.”
Wow! Who needs men if that is so!
Well, the women still wanted to experience orgasm in their relations
with their husbands and/or boyfriends (that’s why they were seeing her),
and, guess what?
No dice.
We men (at least those men) just couldn’t satisfy them
like their sex toys could.
As I remember the Hite report,
precisely the same outcome was found by Sher Hite.
The vast majority of women
could regularly experience orgasm through masturbation, manually or with a toy.
But with men? I’m not sure if “tough titty” is the right phrase here,
but you get the idea.
Now on to a (probably highly inappropriate) personal example.
When I had sex with my then-wife, my orgasm rate (per vaginal entrance)
was darn near one hundred percent. Maybe that’s to her credit.
But gee whiz, for a lot of reasons, almost entirely my fault,
I’ll bet her rate was close to zero.
And I doubt if the problem had anything to do with her biology.
It was just clueless, indifferent male behavior.
And, while I may have been worse than most males,
the social conditioning that men experienced in the 1950s and 1960s
quite simply was not at all directed towards
the desirability, let alone the capability,
of helping your female sex partner experience sexual satisfaction.
And you know what?
There seems to be at least some evidence that, even today,
there are many forces in our society,
not only conservative religious elements but also some in the feminist community,
who are either indifferent to or actively hostile to
helping men and women do the right things,
which I am, intuitively, convinced that they could,
to help most, if not all, women
experience as much sexual satisfaction as men do.]
2010-06-18-XX-Yoffe-No-Orgasms-Please
No Orgasms, Please. We're Womenby Emily Yoffe
Doublex.com, 2010-06-18
I was struck bya comment by Leonore Tiefer,
a sexuality researcher at NYU,
who is testifying before the FDA
against the marketing of
the “female Viagra” drug.
She says the pharmaceutical industry
seeks to medicalize our sexuality,
then offers to cure our problems with a pill.
In the New York Times, Tiefer,
describing the nature of female sexuality, said,
“Women’s sex lives are often
a struggle, a disappointment,
an archipelago of regret.”
The drug, flibanserin,
may indeed not be worth approving,
and Tiefer has a point about medicalization,
but “archipelago of regret”?
It sounds as if the sex doctor needs a sex doctor.
Looking further into Tiefer’s writing, a distinct theme emerges:
Sex is for the birds, and orgasms are for men.
In this paper,
she takes sexuality researcher William Masters to task
for studying female sexual response by using as subjects,
“women who could orgasm during masturbation and intercourse —
an atypical bunch, considering most female sexual experience.”
(Question for Tiefer:
How do you know you’re done masturbating if you don’t have an orgasm—
and why bother?)
And in
“Female Sexual Dysfunction:
A Case Study of Disease Mongering and Activist Resistance”,
she says
there’s a “reductionist” view of sexuality that sees
“satisfaction as an inherent result of normal function.”
I’m trying to understand what’s wrong with the view that, ideally,
normal sexual function will result in satisfaction.
I hope the FDA is also hearing from experts
who don’t seem so invested in the idea that women’s sex lives
are a pleasureless slog.
[With “experts” like that advising them,
no wonder so many women are sexually unfulfilled, if not frustrated.
Cf. Pornland by Gail Dines.]
2010-06-19-NYT-female-sexual-desire-drug
Drug for Sexual Desire Disorder Opposed by PanelBy DUFF WILSON
New York Times, 2010-06-19
A federal advisory panel on Friday unanimously voted against
recommending approving a drug to treat female sexual desire disorder,
but it encouraged the company to continue its research.
...
posted by KHarbaugh at 06:00
2004-06-19
2004-06-18
Communication
Here is an excerpt from
The Hite Report: A National Study of Female Sexuality,
2004 paperback edition, by Shere Hite;
the questions that provoked these responses and discussion were on
questionnaires distributed in the early 1970s.
The numbers of the quotes are added.
[pages 269–74]
“Are your partners well informed?
Are they sensitive to the stimulation you want?”
Answers to this question indicated that in general
only regular partners came anywhere near being well informed—
and that women often felt that
their needs for clitoral stimulation were unusual, evidenced by statements like,
“Not all women are the same,” or “Some women are different,”
or “I usually have to explain how stimulation works for me,
that I don’t come during intercourse.”
1.
“Men are uninformed.
They must all read the same book.
Of course, passivity in women contributes to this miseducation.”
2.
“My husband is now well informed because
I explained exactly what I like to have done to me.”
3.
“Most men are not exactly uninformed;
they seem to know about all the right places of a woman’s body,
but too often most of them seem to just not be tuned into Woman.”
4.
“There are many myths about what men and women want and enjoy.
Great honesty is necessary.”
5.
“My male partners seemed to be well misinformed about female sexuality.”
6.
“Men feel we’re rarely capable of orgasm.”
7.
“Nice but dumb men are unaware that
orgasm in women is not a chance occurrence beyond their control!”
8.
“The only partner I’ve ever had who was ‘sensitive’ is my husband
and it’s taken years for us to be honest about our sexual desires.
I’m still embarrassed if I have to vocally say what I want.”
9.
“Men have been brainwashed to think they’re the sexual experts,
and furthermore, that whatever feels good to them
is what feels good and ‘fulfills’ us also.
Most men I have first slept with seemed to have the attitude,
‘Here, dear, let me show you how.’
Of all the presumption!”
10.
“They are uninformed and they don’t seem to want
the information about the clitoris,
as people once refused to believe the earth went around the sun.
And women are still being dishonest about telling them,
usually as a way of holding the man.”
11.
“They are uninformed but I teach them!
Sometimes this is thrown up in my face as part of being
a ‘demanding female.’ ”
12.
“My husband isn’t fully informed,
but he’s eagerly reading these answers,
and I shall try to be more explicit at appropriate times from now on.”
13.
“Most of my partners never gave a thought to what pleased me
and totally ignored anything I said.
They invariably knew what was best for me.
I tried a few times to ask for what helped me but was ignored or ridiculed.”
14.
“I don’t like men who fancy themselves as sex therapists
and try to tell you what should feel good.
But the male ego is a pretty tricky thing—
you have to go to bed with a guy at least three times
before you begin to tell him how to do it.”
15.
“When we first got married,
my husband would just stick his penis in and move it in and out—
and he had been married before!”
16.
“They are uninformed in any way specific enough to be useful.
I feel as though I should have a physiology training course with each new lover.
I asked one man if he had ever seen a woman’s genitals,
and he said, no it has always been in the dark….”
17.
“They’ve read those awful manuals, and take a very mechanical approach.
They also don’t understand their own sexuality very well.”
18.
“What should one do?
Post a manual over one’s bed?”
19.
“It was like they were foreigners.
Often they cared but were ignorant.”
20.
“I’ve never met a man who knew how to stimulate me very well
until after I told or showed him what to do.
Are all men this insensitive to what turns women on?
I know what turns men on and have known since I was fifteen.”
[I want to interject a point here.
While I am certainly no expert on all this,
as far as I know there really isn’t a whole lot of variation
in what stimulates men to orgasm.
On the other hand, from reading Ms. Hite’s book,
there are an extraordinarily large number of ways
that women prefer to be stimulated to orgasm—see, e.g., 27 below.
So, to consider the question just asked,
are there any one or two things that “turn women on”?
Not according to this book.
So how can men know what any one woman wants, without her telling him?
And if this book is accurate,
that may be considerably more complex than
the rather simple stimulations that men require for orgasm.
Furthermore,
that stimulation most often requires no conscious actions of the woman.
I understand and agree that that means a lack of symmetry in the situation,
but that is a fact of biology,
not something imposed by an inconsiderate patriarchy.]
21.
“My lover, who was an obstetrician, was not well informed.”
22.
“Staggeringly uninformed.
The more confident they are of their sexual prowess
and the effectiveness of their techniques,
the more ignorant they seem to be of the facts and realities.”
23.
I, for one, have told very few people what I am telling you here.
Not good!”
24.
“Most of the men I’ve encountered lately
seem real concerned about bringing me to orgasm
and always try to manually stimulate me after they’ve come.
They seem to feel bad if I don’t come.
I guess today it worries them.”
25.
“He seems fascinated by what I tell him about myself,
as if amazed that I have preferences, etc.”
26.
“Men are especially uninformed about the clitoris
but it’s getting slightly better.
Now they are aware of its importance,
but don’t know where to find it!”
27.
“Very few have had any idea of the number of sensitive places
and variety of on-turning things to do—
most seem to be very limited themselves
in what they like and where they’re sensitive.
It’s unaccountably hard for me (impossible in the throes of passion)
to tell them about it either verbally or any other way—
and even harder to get them to abandon their preconceived and usual methods
even if they think they want to please.”
28.
“Most partners seemed to think that
I would be automatically aroused by two minutes of kissing and touching
and then would be just as ready for intercourse as they were.
I have had to tell them or show them what I wanted.
No one has ever asked me, or known already what would turn me on.
It hasn’t been embarrassing, exactly,
but it’s hard to strike the right one;
showing lovingly what pleases
without suggesting that the man is an ill-informed, selfish animal
(unless, of course, he is!!).”
29.
30.
“Not one man has consistently performed sexually
in a way that would be the best possible and most satisfying for me.
It isn’t that I don’t enjoy intercourse or can’t have orgasms in intercourse—
it’s just a simple fact that in order to enjoy it the most
I need more direct clitoral stimulation.
And it’s not so much work—
just three minutes done well
is enough to help me fly through half a dozen orgasms in intercourse.
It doesn’t require suffocating, straining, or sacrificing his pleasure.
A gentle hand or sensitive tongue can accomplish miracles.
And please, no pressure on the clock.
Any man that makes it seem like a favor
is going to make the woman feel guilty and pressured,
two things that aren’t conducive to having orgasms.”
31.
“It seems like over the past five years
I have met a lot of premature ejaculators,
and a lot of inconsiderate, selfish men.
They either didn’t know about a clitoris and foreplay,
or they just wanted to get their rocks off and then roll over.
Consequently,
I build up a lot of fears and expectations and anxiety
and learned (I realize now) not to get too turned on.
That way I wouldn’t get too disappointed.
I put blocks up because I figured the man would come right away anyway,
so what’s the use?
Now my current partner is very considerate and very sensitive to my needs,
always asking what feels best, etc.
But I have been with men who,
when I told them what I liked or how to rub my clit,
didn’t pay attention.
I would repeat myself,
but only for so long because it began to sound like nagging.
The biggest thing I think I’ve come up against is
men don’t seem to realize the value of foreplay
and that some women take longer to be ready.
It was not really embarrassing to ask for a certain stimulation,
but I hesitate sometimes, because I don’t want to hurt their feelings etc.
I have begun to look out for myself more lately, though, and risked.”
32.
“No,
most of my partners were not well informed about my body and sexual desires—
except my husband.
It was always difficult for me to ask for something,
or correct or instruct.
And often, after summoning the courage to instruct,
I would notice that my partner would ‘forget’ the instructions the next time.
Few of my partners ever tried to find out what I liked.”
33.
“My husband isn’t well informed....
I am a little embarrassed to tell him what makes me feel good
but, strangely enough, I’m not embarrassed with my lover.
I suppose that’s because my lover and I
have a very honest, open relationship which depends a lot on sex.
He has only been with four women besides me,
but seems surprisingly well informed with what pleases women.
He is a very quick learner, and takes criticism very well.
My husband, on the other hand, can’t handle criticism at all,
which is partly why I never tell him.”
34.
“I did the Masters and Johnson bit—two weeks in St. Louis.
I learned that good sex followed almost effortlessly after good communication.
Communication is what they tried to teach my husband and me.
I bought it, he didn’t.
It takes two to talk, tango, or screw.”
35.
“The unique men are those who have outgrown the need for techniques, etc.,
and are comfortable offering themselves.
The important thing is just to listen to yourself and to the other person.”
[Back to Ms. Hite:]
It is not news that masturbation for women is done clitorally.
Why has this—
our own silent testimony to what is efficient stimulation for our bodies—
been so ignored in favor of the way men think we should have orgasms?
All too many men still seem to believe,
in a rather naïve and egocentric way,
that what feels good to them is automatically what feels good to women.
36.
“Most men didn’t seem to be aware that what brought them to climax
wasn’t what brought me to climax.
That about sums it up.”
37.
“Most men seem to have a minimal knowledge about
female desires and anatomy.
My women partners have shown an intuitive knowledge of my needs,
so I exclude them in this discussion.
Most male partners have a general idea about how to please a woman,
but each woman is so different that
initially a man may not know how to please me,
as different from any other woman he’s fucked.
I may have to let him know that the clitoral stimulation he is giving me
is too direct and too sensitive,
or I may have to adjust my body to his
so that I get the right stimulation in intercourse that I need.
Initially he cannot know how I like to be fucked.
If I’m feeling really loose and nervy and horny I may just say,
‘heeey, I really love it this way,’
and show him what I mean by fucking him in a certain way,
maybe really deep or complete thrusts
or real grindy and a lot of pelvic and pubic bone pressure.
Most men do not know that
a woman may need clitoral from intercourse to get off.
[Original emphasis.]
I can’t imagine what women who do not come easily from intercourse, as I do,
and who can’t bring themselves to communicate their needs, do—
they must want to climb walls.
It is very easy to communicate my desires in intercourse—
men seem to have a bit of intuition about this—
but very difficult to communicate needs and desires
in clitoral stimulation, cunnilingus, etc.
Unless a man volunteers to do these things (which most seldom do),
I would never even bring it up.
I have begun to wonder why this is.
It seems that once a man discovers how ‘nicely’ I come from intercourse,
he decides that this is all I want or need.
I do love intercourse and I usually moan and yell as I come,
so the man knows I’ve come and assumes my satisfaction, I guess.
If I was like some other women who don’t often come in intercourse
then maybe he’d try to please me in other ways,
like clitoral stimulation and cunnilingus, which I really miss.
There seems to be a tacit assumption on the part of most men I’ve fucked
that fucking is the best way to come,
and if you can come that way
there’s no use bothering with any of that other stuff.
It’s an odd assumption, though, when you think of it,
cause most men I’ve been with, even though they loved to fuck,
still really dug a good blow job or hand job now and then.
In short, what is a man thinking when we are both horny,
I stimulate him orally to really get him in a mood,
he communicates that he’d like to be blown,
I lovingly make him come,
and then he assumes that sex is over because he has come?
What about me?
Doesn’t he realize that I expect some kind of reciprocation and sexual release?
Apparently not, because this has happened to me so many times.
And I’ll be damned if I can figure out how to communicate this
without making him feel like a real ‘dildo’ (dumb prick)
or making me feel like a demanding bitch.”
The exact questions on the questionnaires
(as stated in the appendices to the book) were:
The Hite Report: A National Study of Female Sexuality,
2004 paperback edition, by Shere Hite;
the questions that provoked these responses and discussion were on
questionnaires distributed in the early 1970s.
The numbers of the quotes are added.
[pages 269–74]
“Are your partners well informed?
Are they sensitive to the stimulation you want?”
Answers to this question indicated that in general
only regular partners came anywhere near being well informed—
and that women often felt that
their needs for clitoral stimulation were unusual, evidenced by statements like,
“Not all women are the same,” or “Some women are different,”
or “I usually have to explain how stimulation works for me,
that I don’t come during intercourse.”
1.
“Men are uninformed.
They must all read the same book.
Of course, passivity in women contributes to this miseducation.”
2.
“My husband is now well informed because
I explained exactly what I like to have done to me.”
3.
“Most men are not exactly uninformed;
they seem to know about all the right places of a woman’s body,
but too often most of them seem to just not be tuned into Woman.”
4.
“There are many myths about what men and women want and enjoy.
Great honesty is necessary.”
5.
“My male partners seemed to be well misinformed about female sexuality.”
6.
“Men feel we’re rarely capable of orgasm.”
7.
“Nice but dumb men are unaware that
orgasm in women is not a chance occurrence beyond their control!”
8.
“The only partner I’ve ever had who was ‘sensitive’ is my husband
and it’s taken years for us to be honest about our sexual desires.
I’m still embarrassed if I have to vocally say what I want.”
9.
“Men have been brainwashed to think they’re the sexual experts,
and furthermore, that whatever feels good to them
is what feels good and ‘fulfills’ us also.
Most men I have first slept with seemed to have the attitude,
‘Here, dear, let me show you how.’
Of all the presumption!”
10.
“They are uninformed and they don’t seem to want
the information about the clitoris,
as people once refused to believe the earth went around the sun.
And women are still being dishonest about telling them,
usually as a way of holding the man.”
11.
“They are uninformed but I teach them!
Sometimes this is thrown up in my face as part of being
a ‘demanding female.’ ”
12.
“My husband isn’t fully informed,
but he’s eagerly reading these answers,
and I shall try to be more explicit at appropriate times from now on.”
13.
“Most of my partners never gave a thought to what pleased me
and totally ignored anything I said.
They invariably knew what was best for me.
I tried a few times to ask for what helped me but was ignored or ridiculed.”
14.
“I don’t like men who fancy themselves as sex therapists
and try to tell you what should feel good.
But the male ego is a pretty tricky thing—
you have to go to bed with a guy at least three times
before you begin to tell him how to do it.”
15.
“When we first got married,
my husband would just stick his penis in and move it in and out—
and he had been married before!”
16.
“They are uninformed in any way specific enough to be useful.
I feel as though I should have a physiology training course with each new lover.
I asked one man if he had ever seen a woman’s genitals,
and he said, no it has always been in the dark….”
17.
“They’ve read those awful manuals, and take a very mechanical approach.
They also don’t understand their own sexuality very well.”
18.
“What should one do?
Post a manual over one’s bed?”
19.
“It was like they were foreigners.
Often they cared but were ignorant.”
20.
“I’ve never met a man who knew how to stimulate me very well
until after I told or showed him what to do.
Are all men this insensitive to what turns women on?
I know what turns men on and have known since I was fifteen.”
[I want to interject a point here.
While I am certainly no expert on all this,
as far as I know there really isn’t a whole lot of variation
in what stimulates men to orgasm.
On the other hand, from reading Ms. Hite’s book,
there are an extraordinarily large number of ways
that women prefer to be stimulated to orgasm—see, e.g., 27 below.
So, to consider the question just asked,
are there any one or two things that “turn women on”?
Not according to this book.
So how can men know what any one woman wants, without her telling him?
And if this book is accurate,
that may be considerably more complex than
the rather simple stimulations that men require for orgasm.
Furthermore,
that stimulation most often requires no conscious actions of the woman.
I understand and agree that that means a lack of symmetry in the situation,
but that is a fact of biology,
not something imposed by an inconsiderate patriarchy.]
21.
“My lover, who was an obstetrician, was not well informed.”
22.
“Staggeringly uninformed.
The more confident they are of their sexual prowess
and the effectiveness of their techniques,
the more ignorant they seem to be of the facts and realities.”
23.
“We are all uninformed.
We need to discuss sex openly and freely together,
privately and in public,
and show each other with our bodies how we do things—
just as is done in other fields.
I, for one, have told very few people what I am telling you here.
Not good!”
24.
“Most of the men I’ve encountered lately
seem real concerned about bringing me to orgasm
and always try to manually stimulate me after they’ve come.
They seem to feel bad if I don’t come.
I guess today it worries them.”
25.
“He seems fascinated by what I tell him about myself,
as if amazed that I have preferences, etc.”
26.
“Men are especially uninformed about the clitoris
but it’s getting slightly better.
Now they are aware of its importance,
but don’t know where to find it!”
27.
“Very few have had any idea of the number of sensitive places
and variety of on-turning things to do—
most seem to be very limited themselves
in what they like and where they’re sensitive.
It’s unaccountably hard for me (impossible in the throes of passion)
to tell them about it either verbally or any other way—
and even harder to get them to abandon their preconceived and usual methods
even if they think they want to please.”
28.
“Most partners seemed to think that
I would be automatically aroused by two minutes of kissing and touching
and then would be just as ready for intercourse as they were.
I have had to tell them or show them what I wanted.
No one has ever asked me, or known already what would turn me on.
It hasn’t been embarrassing, exactly,
but it’s hard to strike the right one;
showing lovingly what pleases
without suggesting that the man is an ill-informed, selfish animal
(unless, of course, he is!!).”
29.
“Men should ask flat out:
‘What do you want?’”
30.
“Not one man has consistently performed sexually
in a way that would be the best possible and most satisfying for me.
It isn’t that I don’t enjoy intercourse or can’t have orgasms in intercourse—
it’s just a simple fact that in order to enjoy it the most
I need more direct clitoral stimulation.
And it’s not so much work—
just three minutes done well
is enough to help me fly through half a dozen orgasms in intercourse.
It doesn’t require suffocating, straining, or sacrificing his pleasure.
A gentle hand or sensitive tongue can accomplish miracles.
And please, no pressure on the clock.
Any man that makes it seem like a favor
is going to make the woman feel guilty and pressured,
two things that aren’t conducive to having orgasms.”
31.
“It seems like over the past five years
I have met a lot of premature ejaculators,
and a lot of inconsiderate, selfish men.
They either didn’t know about a clitoris and foreplay,
or they just wanted to get their rocks off and then roll over.
Consequently,
I build up a lot of fears and expectations and anxiety
and learned (I realize now) not to get too turned on.
That way I wouldn’t get too disappointed.
I put blocks up because I figured the man would come right away anyway,
so what’s the use?
Now my current partner is very considerate and very sensitive to my needs,
always asking what feels best, etc.
But I have been with men who,
when I told them what I liked or how to rub my clit,
didn’t pay attention.
I would repeat myself,
but only for so long because it began to sound like nagging.
The biggest thing I think I’ve come up against is
men don’t seem to realize the value of foreplay
and that some women take longer to be ready.
It was not really embarrassing to ask for a certain stimulation,
but I hesitate sometimes, because I don’t want to hurt their feelings etc.
I have begun to look out for myself more lately, though, and risked.”
32.
“No,
most of my partners were not well informed about my body and sexual desires—
except my husband.
It was always difficult for me to ask for something,
or correct or instruct.
And often, after summoning the courage to instruct,
I would notice that my partner would ‘forget’ the instructions the next time.
Few of my partners ever tried to find out what I liked.”
33.
“My husband isn’t well informed....
I am a little embarrassed to tell him what makes me feel good
but, strangely enough, I’m not embarrassed with my lover.
I suppose that’s because my lover and I
have a very honest, open relationship which depends a lot on sex.
He has only been with four women besides me,
but seems surprisingly well informed with what pleases women.
He is a very quick learner, and takes criticism very well.
My husband, on the other hand, can’t handle criticism at all,
which is partly why I never tell him.”
34.
“I did the Masters and Johnson bit—two weeks in St. Louis.
I learned that good sex followed almost effortlessly after good communication.
Communication is what they tried to teach my husband and me.
I bought it, he didn’t.
It takes two to talk, tango, or screw.”
35.
“The unique men are those who have outgrown the need for techniques, etc.,
and are comfortable offering themselves.
The important thing is just to listen to yourself and to the other person.”
[Back to Ms. Hite:]
It is not news that masturbation for women is done clitorally.
Why has this—
our own silent testimony to what is efficient stimulation for our bodies—
been so ignored in favor of the way men think we should have orgasms?
All too many men still seem to believe,
in a rather naïve and egocentric way,
that what feels good to them is automatically what feels good to women.
36.
“Most men didn’t seem to be aware that what brought them to climax
wasn’t what brought me to climax.
That about sums it up.”
37.
“Most men seem to have a minimal knowledge about
female desires and anatomy.
My women partners have shown an intuitive knowledge of my needs,
so I exclude them in this discussion.
Most male partners have a general idea about how to please a woman,
but each woman is so different that
initially a man may not know how to please me,
as different from any other woman he’s fucked.
I may have to let him know that the clitoral stimulation he is giving me
is too direct and too sensitive,
or I may have to adjust my body to his
so that I get the right stimulation in intercourse that I need.
Initially he cannot know how I like to be fucked.
If I’m feeling really loose and nervy and horny I may just say,
‘heeey, I really love it this way,’
and show him what I mean by fucking him in a certain way,
maybe really deep or complete thrusts
or real grindy and a lot of pelvic and pubic bone pressure.
Most men do not know that
a woman may need clitoral from intercourse to get off.
[Original emphasis.]
I can’t imagine what women who do not come easily from intercourse, as I do,
and who can’t bring themselves to communicate their needs, do—
they must want to climb walls.
It is very easy to communicate my desires in intercourse—
men seem to have a bit of intuition about this—
but very difficult to communicate needs and desires
in clitoral stimulation, cunnilingus, etc.
Unless a man volunteers to do these things (which most seldom do),
I would never even bring it up.
I have begun to wonder why this is.
It seems that once a man discovers how ‘nicely’ I come from intercourse,
he decides that this is all I want or need.
I do love intercourse and I usually moan and yell as I come,
so the man knows I’ve come and assumes my satisfaction, I guess.
If I was like some other women who don’t often come in intercourse
then maybe he’d try to please me in other ways,
like clitoral stimulation and cunnilingus, which I really miss.
There seems to be a tacit assumption on the part of most men I’ve fucked
that fucking is the best way to come,
and if you can come that way
there’s no use bothering with any of that other stuff.
It’s an odd assumption, though, when you think of it,
cause most men I’ve been with, even though they loved to fuck,
still really dug a good blow job or hand job now and then.
In short, what is a man thinking when we are both horny,
I stimulate him orally to really get him in a mood,
he communicates that he’d like to be blown,
I lovingly make him come,
and then he assumes that sex is over because he has come?
What about me?
Doesn’t he realize that I expect some kind of reciprocation and sexual release?
Apparently not, because this has happened to me so many times.
And I’ll be damned if I can figure out how to communicate this
without making him feel like a real ‘dildo’ (dumb prick)
or making me feel like a demanding bitch.”
The Questions on the Questionnaires
The exact questions on the questionnaires
(as stated in the appendices to the book) were:
- Questionnaire I, 1972-09
Question 42.
“Do you think men are uninformed
about your sexual desires and your body?
Do you think women are?” - Questionnaire II, 1973-01
Question 33.
“Do most of your partners seem to be well informed
about your sexual desires and your body?
Are they sensitive to the stimulation you want?
If not, do you ask for it or act yourself to get it?
Is this embarrassing?” - Questionnaire III, 1973-06
Question 36.
“Are most of your partners sensitive to
the stimulation you want?
If not, do you ask for it or act yourself to get it?
Is this embarrassing?” - Questions asked in the 1976 edition of the book,
questions that were “Originally published in March 1974.”
Question 45.
“Is (are) your partner(s) sensitive to
the stimulation you want?
If not, do you ask for it, or stimulate yourself?
Is this embarrassing?” - The question as phrased in the body of the book, on page 269:
“Are your partners well informed?
Are they sensitive to the stimulation you want?”
Labels: communication, sex
posted by KHarbaugh at 12:00
2004-06-12
Singing cowgirls
Poppea/de Niese, Act I, Scene 10, Glyndebourne 2008
For the libretto of Semele, with links to YouTube videos, click here.
Semele as a cowgirl who is not singing, but is sung to:
Semele/Joseph, Act II, Scene 3, Number 37, ENO 1997
Semele almost facesits (cf. Under the Sink (XXX, NSW):
Semele/Joseph, Act II, Scene 3, Number 39, ENO 1997
Semele as a singing cowgirl:
Semele/Joseph, Act II, Scene 3, Number 39, ENO 1997
(Note how Rosemary Joseph can sing beautifully even while laying flat on her back!
I didn't know that was possible.)
Here Semele and a courtier have a little Sapphic interlude:
Semele/Joseph, Act II, Scene 3, Number 43, ENO 1997
By Jove, whether it is Nero or Jove,
these women always get the top rank as well as the top! :-)
Handel, Alcina, Patricia Petibon, Festival d'Aix-en-Provence, 2015
For those desiring very explicit (but without song!) examples of positions
(these are for adults only):
cowgirls
cunnilingus
For the libretto of Semele, with links to YouTube videos, click here.
Semele as a cowgirl who is not singing, but is sung to:
Semele/Joseph, Act II, Scene 3, Number 37, ENO 1997
Semele almost facesits (cf. Under the Sink (XXX, NSW):
Semele/Joseph, Act II, Scene 3, Number 39, ENO 1997
Semele as a singing cowgirl:
Semele/Joseph, Act II, Scene 3, Number 39, ENO 1997
(Note how Rosemary Joseph can sing beautifully even while laying flat on her back!
I didn't know that was possible.)
Here Semele and a courtier have a little Sapphic interlude:
Semele/Joseph, Act II, Scene 3, Number 43, ENO 1997
By Jove, whether it is Nero or Jove,
these women always get the top rank as well as the top! :-)
Handel, Alcina, Patricia Petibon, Festival d'Aix-en-Provence, 2015
For those desiring very explicit (but without song!) examples of positions
(these are for adults only):
cowgirls
cunnilingus
Labels: cowgirls
posted by KHarbaugh at 11:00
2004-06-11
Erotic ballet
A ballet set to the music, for percussion-rich orchestra and chorus,
of Carl Orff's Catulli Carmina
Here is an embed of that performance:
Here is an English translation (performed by translate.google.com)
of the description by the YouTube uploader, Konstantin Biryukov,
of the performance:
Composer - Carl Orff
One-act rock ballet.
Duration - 35 min.
Staging - May Esther Murdmaa (Estonia).
Assistants to the choreographer - Viesturs Jansons, Olga Komlev, Xenia Tsaregorodtseva.
Scenography - Boris Golodnitsky.
Costume Designer - Tatiana Isycheva.
Lighting Designer - Anatoly Nikolaev.
Premiere - July 3, 2012.
"Catulli Carmina" - the second part of a certain trilogy composer Carl Orff (triptych with a joint called "Triumph"), which also includes part of the "Carmina Burana" and "Triumph of Aphrodite."
At the heart of "Carmina Catulli" poetry of the Roman poet Catullus, Gaius Valeria, who described the story of his love for Lesbia. Presumably, it existed it really is: Claudia, a Roman patrician, the sister of the grandstand and the Thais, known for shocking freedom of manners. Her beauty and education caused a deep sense of the poet, but the love was executed bitterness left Lesbia Catullus for portage, she danced in front of them in the tavern, to give a lot of money to anyone wanting and then responded to love Celia, the treacherous friend of the poet. Catullus tried to find solace in the beauty Ipsitilly selling love, but in vain: he can neither forget nor forgive lesbian.
The ballet was staged for 12 days.
For background on the work, see Wikipedia.
As of 2014-09-22 there is a MicroSoft .doc file of the lyrics (in Latin) at
http://www.eduhi.at/gegenstand/latein/data/catulli_carmina.doc.
Or see the (Latin) text here:
CATULLI CARMINA TEXT
LUDI SCAENICI
Personae
CATULLUS
LESBIA - amica
CAELIUS - amicus
IPSITILLA et AMEANA - meretrices
AMATORES ET MERETRICES
CHORUS:
JUVENES, JUVENCULAE, SENES
PRAELUSIO
JUVENES, JUVENCULAE, NOVEM SENES
Ante scaenam sinistra juvenes, dextra juvenculae consederunt, retro, media in parte pulpiti, supra scaenam senes.
JUVENES, JUVENCULAE: Eis aiona ! tui sum ! Eis aiona ! tui sum ! O mea vita; Eis aiona ! tui sum, Eis aiona !
JUVENES: Tu mihi cara, mi cara amicula, corculum es!
JUVENCULAE: corculum es!
JUVENES: Tu mihi corculum, tu mihi corculum,
JUVENCULAE: corcule, corcule, dic mi, dic mi, a te me amari ?
JUVENES: O tui oculi, ocelli lucidi, fulgurant, efferunt me velut specula.
JUVENCULAE: specula, specula, tu mihi specula ?
JUVENES: O tua blandula, blanda, blandicula, tua labella,
JUVENCULAE: cave, cave, cave, cavete !
JUVENES: ad ludum prolectant,
JUVENCULAE: cave, cave, cave, cavete !
JUVENES: O tua lingula, lingula, lingula, usque perniciter vibrans ut vipera.
JUVENCULAE: Cave, cave, cave, cavete, cave meam viperam, nisi te mordet.
JUVENES: Morde me !
JUVENCULAE: Basia me !
JUVENES: Morde me !
JUVENCULAE: Basia me ! Basia me ! Basia me !
JUVENES, JUVENCULAE: Ah!!
JUVENES: O tuae mammulae, mammulae, mammulae !
JUVENCULAE: mammulae !
JUVENES: mammae molliculae,
JUVENCULAE: mammae molliculae,
JUVENES: dulciter turgidae, gemina poma !
JUVENES, JUVENCULAE: Ah!
JUVENES: mea manus est cupida, manus est cupida, cupida, cupida,
SOLO GRIDANDO: o vos papillae horridulae !
JUVENES: mea manus est cupida, illas prensare,
JUVENCULAE: suave, suave,
JUVENES: illas prensare,
JUVENCULAE: suave, suave, suave lenire,
JUVENES: illas prensare, vehementer prensare,
JUVENES, JUVENCULAE: ah!
JUVENCULAE: O tua mentula, mentula, mentula,
JUVENES: mentula,
JUVENCULAE: cupide saliens
JUVENES: peni peniculus
JUVENCULAE: velut pisciculus,
JUVENES: is qui desiderat tuam fonticulam
JUVENES, JUVENCULAE: Ah!
JUVENCULAE: mea manus est cupida, manus est cupida, cupida, cupida,
SOLO GRIDANDO: coda, codicula, avida, avida !
JUVENCULAE: mea manus est cupida, illam captare,
JUVENES : petulanti manicula !
JUVENCULAE: illam captare.
JUVENES: Tu es Venus, Venus es !
JUVENCULAE: O me felicem !
JUVENES: In te, in te, in te habitant omnia gaudia, omnes dulcedines, omnis voluptas. In te, in te, in tuo amplexu in tuo ingenti amplexu tota est mihi vita.
JUVENCULAE: O me felicem ! !
JUVENES,JUVENCULAE: Eis aiona ! Eis aiona !
SENES (mordaciter): Eis aiona ! O res ridicula ! immensa stultitia. Nihil durare potest tempore perpetuo, cum bene Sol nituit, redditur Oceano. Decrescit Phoebe, quae modo plena fuit. Venerum feritas saepe fit aura levis. Tempus, tempus, tempus amoris cubiculum non est. Sublata lucerna nulla est fides, perfida omnia sunt. O vos brutos, vos stupidos, vos stupidos, vos stolidos !
SOLO: Lanternari, tene scalam !
SENES Audite, audite, audite ac videte: „Catulli Carmina"
JUVENES, JUVENCULAE (ecstasi soluti): Audiamus ! !
Incipit ludus scaenicus:
ACTUS I
1. Catullus ad columnam
Odi et amo, quare id faciam, fortasse requiris. Nescio, sed fieri sentio et excrucior. Ah!
Intrat Lesbia
II. Catullus et Lesbia
Vivamus, mea Lesbia, atque amemus, rumoresque senum severiorum omnes unius aestimemus assis. Soles occidere et redire possunt: nobis, cum semel occidit brevis lux, nox est perpetua una dormienda. Da mi basia mille, deinde centum, dein mille altera, dein secunda centum, deinde usque altera mille, deinde centum, dein cum milia multa fecerimus, conturbabimus illa, ne sciamus, aut nequis malus invidere possit, cum tantum sciat esse basiorum.
III. Catullus et Lesbia ad columnam considunt
Ille mi par esse deo videtur, ille, si fas est, superare divos, qui sedens adversus identidem te spectat et audit dulce ridentem, misero quod omnis eripit sensus mihi; nam simul te, Lesbia, adspexi, nihil est super mi.. . lingua sed torpet tenuis sub artus flamma demanat, sonitu, suopte tintinant aures, gemina teguntur lumina nocte.
Catullus in Lesbiae gremio indormit
Otium, Catulle, tibi molestumst;
Intrant amatores
Otium, Catulle, otio exultas nimiumque gestis. Otium, Catulle; otium et reges prius et beatas perdidit urbes.
Lesbia Catullum dormientem relinquit
IV. Lesbia in taberna saltat coram amatoribus, interim Catullus expergiscitur. Intrat Caelius. Catullus desperat
Caeli! Lesbia nostra, Lesbia illa, illa Lesbia, quam Catullus unam plus quam se atque suos amavit omnes, nunc in quadriviis et angiportis glubit magnanimi Remi nepotes. O mea Lesbia!
V.
Nulli se dicit mulier mea nubere malle quam mihi, non si se Juppiter ipse petat. Ha ha ha! Dicit : sed mulier cupido quod dicit amanti in vento et rapida scribere oportet aqua. Ha ha ha!
Catullus et Caelius exeunt. Applaudunt senes dicentes:
Placet, placet, placet, optime, optime, optime!
ACTUS II
VI. Nox. Catullus in via ante Lesbiae casam dormit. Somnians videt in casa tralucida Lesbiae sese in lecto cubantis amplexibus fruentem
Jucundum, mea vita, mihi proponis amorem. Hunc nostrum inter nos perpetuumque fore.
Lesbia permulcet amicum
„Dormi, dormi, dormi ancora”. Di magni facite ut vere promittere possit atque id sincere dicat et ex animo, ut liceat nobis tota perducere vita aeternum hoc sanctae foedus amicitiae.
Scena lasciva
VII. Agnoscit Catullus suo loco Caelium. Catullus expergiscitur: casa tenebris obruitur. Catullus despera.
O mea Lesbia ! Desine de quoquam quicquam bene velle mereri aut aliquem fieri posse putare pium. Omnia sunt ingrata. Nil fecisse benigne, nil. Immo etiam taedet obestque magis: ut mihi, quem nemo gravius nec acerbius urget quam modo, qui me unum atque unicum amicum habuit.
Applaudunt senes dicentes:
Placet, placet, placet, optime, optime, optime!
ACTUS III
VIII. Lux. Catullus ad columnam
Odi et amo, quare id faciam, fortasse requiris. Nescio, sed fieri sentio et excrucior. Ah!
Ipsitilla perbella puellula ad fenestram apparet
IX. Inflammatus venere Catullus epistulam scribit
Amabo, mea dulcis Ipsitilla, meae deliciae, mei lepores, iube ad te veniam meridiatum. Et si iusseris illud, adiuvato, nequis liminis obseret tabellam, neu tibi libeat foras abire. Sed domi maneas paresque nobis novem continuas fututiones. Verum, si quid ages, statim iubeto. Nam pransus iaceo et satur supinus pertundo tunicamque palliumque.
X. Ameana, puella defututa, progressa incursat Catullo
Ameana, puella defututa, tota milia me decem poposcit, ista turpiculo puella naso, decoctoris amica Formiani, propinqui, quibus est puella curae, amicos medicosque convocate: non est sana puella, nec rogate qualis sit: solide est imaginosa.
Catullus Ameanam propellit
XI. Inter amatores ac meretrices ambulantes Catullus solam identidem petit Lesbiam
Miser Catulle, desinas ineptire, et quod vides perisse, perditum ducas. Fulsere quondam candidi tibi soles, cum ventitabas quo puella ducebat amata nobis quantum amabitur nulla.
Ibi illa multa tum iocosa fiebant, quae tu volebas nec puella nolebat. Fulsere vere candidi tibi soles. Nunc iam illa non vult: tu quoque, impotens, noli, nec quae fugit sectare, nec miser vive, sed obstinata mente perfer, obdura. Vale, puella, iam Catullus obdurat, nec te requiret nec rogabit invitam: at tu dolebis, cum rogaberis nulla. Scelesta, vae to! Quae tibi manet vita! Quis nunc te adibit? Cui videberis bella? Quem nunc amabis? Cuius esse diceris? Quem basiabis? Cui labella mordebis? At tu, Catulle, destinatus obdura.
Catullus inter amatores titubans corruit. Inerant Caelius et Lesbia. Lesbia conspecto Catullo exlamat: „Catulle!”, Catullus prosiliens: „Lesbia”, repellit eam.
XII. Catullus ad columnam
Nulla potest mulier tantum se dicere amatam vere, quantum a me Lesbia amata mea's: nulla fides ullo fuit umquam in foedere tanta, quanta in amore tuo ex parte reperta mea est. Nunc est mens diducta tua, mea Lesbia, culpa, atque ita se officio perdidit ipsa suo, ut iam nec bene velle queat tibi, si optima fias, nec desistere amare, omnia si facias.
Lesbia desperans in casam fugit. Finitur ludus scaenicus.
EXODIUM
Juvenculae atque juvenes, diu iam non curantes spectaculum, de nuo incitati, mutuo rursus incenduntur ardore
JUVENES, JUVENCULAE: Eis aiona ! tui sum !
SENES: Oimè !!
JUVENES, JUVENCULAE: Eis aiona ! Accendite faces !! Jo !
of Carl Orff's Catulli Carmina
Here is an embed of that performance:
Here is an English translation (performed by translate.google.com)
of the description by the YouTube uploader, Konstantin Biryukov,
of the performance:
Composer - Carl Orff
One-act rock ballet.
Duration - 35 min.
Staging - May Esther Murdmaa (Estonia).
Assistants to the choreographer - Viesturs Jansons, Olga Komlev, Xenia Tsaregorodtseva.
Scenography - Boris Golodnitsky.
Costume Designer - Tatiana Isycheva.
Lighting Designer - Anatoly Nikolaev.
Premiere - July 3, 2012.
"Catulli Carmina" - the second part of a certain trilogy composer Carl Orff (triptych with a joint called "Triumph"), which also includes part of the "Carmina Burana" and "Triumph of Aphrodite."
At the heart of "Carmina Catulli" poetry of the Roman poet Catullus, Gaius Valeria, who described the story of his love for Lesbia. Presumably, it existed it really is: Claudia, a Roman patrician, the sister of the grandstand and the Thais, known for shocking freedom of manners. Her beauty and education caused a deep sense of the poet, but the love was executed bitterness left Lesbia Catullus for portage, she danced in front of them in the tavern, to give a lot of money to anyone wanting and then responded to love Celia, the treacherous friend of the poet. Catullus tried to find solace in the beauty Ipsitilly selling love, but in vain: he can neither forget nor forgive lesbian.
The ballet was staged for 12 days.
For background on the work, see Wikipedia.
As of 2014-09-22 there is a MicroSoft .doc file of the lyrics (in Latin) at
http://www.eduhi.at/gegenstand/latein/data/catulli_carmina.doc.
Or see the (Latin) text here:
CATULLI CARMINA TEXT
LUDI SCAENICI
Personae
CATULLUS
LESBIA - amica
CAELIUS - amicus
IPSITILLA et AMEANA - meretrices
AMATORES ET MERETRICES
CHORUS:
JUVENES, JUVENCULAE, SENES
PRAELUSIO
JUVENES, JUVENCULAE, NOVEM SENES
Ante scaenam sinistra juvenes, dextra juvenculae consederunt, retro, media in parte pulpiti, supra scaenam senes.
JUVENES, JUVENCULAE: Eis aiona ! tui sum ! Eis aiona ! tui sum ! O mea vita; Eis aiona ! tui sum, Eis aiona !
JUVENES: Tu mihi cara, mi cara amicula, corculum es!
JUVENCULAE: corculum es!
JUVENES: Tu mihi corculum, tu mihi corculum,
JUVENCULAE: corcule, corcule, dic mi, dic mi, a te me amari ?
JUVENES: O tui oculi, ocelli lucidi, fulgurant, efferunt me velut specula.
JUVENCULAE: specula, specula, tu mihi specula ?
JUVENES: O tua blandula, blanda, blandicula, tua labella,
JUVENCULAE: cave, cave, cave, cavete !
JUVENES: ad ludum prolectant,
JUVENCULAE: cave, cave, cave, cavete !
JUVENES: O tua lingula, lingula, lingula, usque perniciter vibrans ut vipera.
JUVENCULAE: Cave, cave, cave, cavete, cave meam viperam, nisi te mordet.
JUVENES: Morde me !
JUVENCULAE: Basia me !
JUVENES: Morde me !
JUVENCULAE: Basia me ! Basia me ! Basia me !
JUVENES, JUVENCULAE: Ah!!
JUVENES: O tuae mammulae, mammulae, mammulae !
JUVENCULAE: mammulae !
JUVENES: mammae molliculae,
JUVENCULAE: mammae molliculae,
JUVENES: dulciter turgidae, gemina poma !
JUVENES, JUVENCULAE: Ah!
JUVENES: mea manus est cupida, manus est cupida, cupida, cupida,
SOLO GRIDANDO: o vos papillae horridulae !
JUVENES: mea manus est cupida, illas prensare,
JUVENCULAE: suave, suave,
JUVENES: illas prensare,
JUVENCULAE: suave, suave, suave lenire,
JUVENES: illas prensare, vehementer prensare,
JUVENES, JUVENCULAE: ah!
JUVENCULAE: O tua mentula, mentula, mentula,
JUVENES: mentula,
JUVENCULAE: cupide saliens
JUVENES: peni peniculus
JUVENCULAE: velut pisciculus,
JUVENES: is qui desiderat tuam fonticulam
JUVENES, JUVENCULAE: Ah!
JUVENCULAE: mea manus est cupida, manus est cupida, cupida, cupida,
SOLO GRIDANDO: coda, codicula, avida, avida !
JUVENCULAE: mea manus est cupida, illam captare,
JUVENES : petulanti manicula !
JUVENCULAE: illam captare.
JUVENES: Tu es Venus, Venus es !
JUVENCULAE: O me felicem !
JUVENES: In te, in te, in te habitant omnia gaudia, omnes dulcedines, omnis voluptas. In te, in te, in tuo amplexu in tuo ingenti amplexu tota est mihi vita.
JUVENCULAE: O me felicem ! !
JUVENES,JUVENCULAE: Eis aiona ! Eis aiona !
SENES (mordaciter): Eis aiona ! O res ridicula ! immensa stultitia. Nihil durare potest tempore perpetuo, cum bene Sol nituit, redditur Oceano. Decrescit Phoebe, quae modo plena fuit. Venerum feritas saepe fit aura levis. Tempus, tempus, tempus amoris cubiculum non est. Sublata lucerna nulla est fides, perfida omnia sunt. O vos brutos, vos stupidos, vos stupidos, vos stolidos !
SOLO: Lanternari, tene scalam !
SENES Audite, audite, audite ac videte: „Catulli Carmina"
JUVENES, JUVENCULAE (ecstasi soluti): Audiamus ! !
Incipit ludus scaenicus:
ACTUS I
1. Catullus ad columnam
Odi et amo, quare id faciam, fortasse requiris. Nescio, sed fieri sentio et excrucior. Ah!
Intrat Lesbia
II. Catullus et Lesbia
Vivamus, mea Lesbia, atque amemus, rumoresque senum severiorum omnes unius aestimemus assis. Soles occidere et redire possunt: nobis, cum semel occidit brevis lux, nox est perpetua una dormienda. Da mi basia mille, deinde centum, dein mille altera, dein secunda centum, deinde usque altera mille, deinde centum, dein cum milia multa fecerimus, conturbabimus illa, ne sciamus, aut nequis malus invidere possit, cum tantum sciat esse basiorum.
III. Catullus et Lesbia ad columnam considunt
Ille mi par esse deo videtur, ille, si fas est, superare divos, qui sedens adversus identidem te spectat et audit dulce ridentem, misero quod omnis eripit sensus mihi; nam simul te, Lesbia, adspexi, nihil est super mi.. . lingua sed torpet tenuis sub artus flamma demanat, sonitu, suopte tintinant aures, gemina teguntur lumina nocte.
Catullus in Lesbiae gremio indormit
Otium, Catulle, tibi molestumst;
Intrant amatores
Otium, Catulle, otio exultas nimiumque gestis. Otium, Catulle; otium et reges prius et beatas perdidit urbes.
Lesbia Catullum dormientem relinquit
IV. Lesbia in taberna saltat coram amatoribus, interim Catullus expergiscitur. Intrat Caelius. Catullus desperat
Caeli! Lesbia nostra, Lesbia illa, illa Lesbia, quam Catullus unam plus quam se atque suos amavit omnes, nunc in quadriviis et angiportis glubit magnanimi Remi nepotes. O mea Lesbia!
V.
Nulli se dicit mulier mea nubere malle quam mihi, non si se Juppiter ipse petat. Ha ha ha! Dicit : sed mulier cupido quod dicit amanti in vento et rapida scribere oportet aqua. Ha ha ha!
Catullus et Caelius exeunt. Applaudunt senes dicentes:
Placet, placet, placet, optime, optime, optime!
ACTUS II
VI. Nox. Catullus in via ante Lesbiae casam dormit. Somnians videt in casa tralucida Lesbiae sese in lecto cubantis amplexibus fruentem
Jucundum, mea vita, mihi proponis amorem. Hunc nostrum inter nos perpetuumque fore.
Lesbia permulcet amicum
„Dormi, dormi, dormi ancora”. Di magni facite ut vere promittere possit atque id sincere dicat et ex animo, ut liceat nobis tota perducere vita aeternum hoc sanctae foedus amicitiae.
Scena lasciva
VII. Agnoscit Catullus suo loco Caelium. Catullus expergiscitur: casa tenebris obruitur. Catullus despera.
O mea Lesbia ! Desine de quoquam quicquam bene velle mereri aut aliquem fieri posse putare pium. Omnia sunt ingrata. Nil fecisse benigne, nil. Immo etiam taedet obestque magis: ut mihi, quem nemo gravius nec acerbius urget quam modo, qui me unum atque unicum amicum habuit.
Applaudunt senes dicentes:
Placet, placet, placet, optime, optime, optime!
ACTUS III
VIII. Lux. Catullus ad columnam
Odi et amo, quare id faciam, fortasse requiris. Nescio, sed fieri sentio et excrucior. Ah!
Ipsitilla perbella puellula ad fenestram apparet
IX. Inflammatus venere Catullus epistulam scribit
Amabo, mea dulcis Ipsitilla, meae deliciae, mei lepores, iube ad te veniam meridiatum. Et si iusseris illud, adiuvato, nequis liminis obseret tabellam, neu tibi libeat foras abire. Sed domi maneas paresque nobis novem continuas fututiones. Verum, si quid ages, statim iubeto. Nam pransus iaceo et satur supinus pertundo tunicamque palliumque.
X. Ameana, puella defututa, progressa incursat Catullo
Ameana, puella defututa, tota milia me decem poposcit, ista turpiculo puella naso, decoctoris amica Formiani, propinqui, quibus est puella curae, amicos medicosque convocate: non est sana puella, nec rogate qualis sit: solide est imaginosa.
Catullus Ameanam propellit
XI. Inter amatores ac meretrices ambulantes Catullus solam identidem petit Lesbiam
Miser Catulle, desinas ineptire, et quod vides perisse, perditum ducas. Fulsere quondam candidi tibi soles, cum ventitabas quo puella ducebat amata nobis quantum amabitur nulla.
Ibi illa multa tum iocosa fiebant, quae tu volebas nec puella nolebat. Fulsere vere candidi tibi soles. Nunc iam illa non vult: tu quoque, impotens, noli, nec quae fugit sectare, nec miser vive, sed obstinata mente perfer, obdura. Vale, puella, iam Catullus obdurat, nec te requiret nec rogabit invitam: at tu dolebis, cum rogaberis nulla. Scelesta, vae to! Quae tibi manet vita! Quis nunc te adibit? Cui videberis bella? Quem nunc amabis? Cuius esse diceris? Quem basiabis? Cui labella mordebis? At tu, Catulle, destinatus obdura.
Catullus inter amatores titubans corruit. Inerant Caelius et Lesbia. Lesbia conspecto Catullo exlamat: „Catulle!”, Catullus prosiliens: „Lesbia”, repellit eam.
XII. Catullus ad columnam
Nulla potest mulier tantum se dicere amatam vere, quantum a me Lesbia amata mea's: nulla fides ullo fuit umquam in foedere tanta, quanta in amore tuo ex parte reperta mea est. Nunc est mens diducta tua, mea Lesbia, culpa, atque ita se officio perdidit ipsa suo, ut iam nec bene velle queat tibi, si optima fias, nec desistere amare, omnia si facias.
Lesbia desperans in casam fugit. Finitur ludus scaenicus.
EXODIUM
Juvenculae atque juvenes, diu iam non curantes spectaculum, de nuo incitati, mutuo rursus incenduntur ardore
JUVENES, JUVENCULAE: Eis aiona ! tui sum !
SENES: Oimè !!
JUVENES, JUVENCULAE: Eis aiona ! Accendite faces !! Jo !
posted by KHarbaugh at 12:00
2004-06-04
Sex on the web
Sexual Consumer Reports for the Web
Most of the sexually-oriented material on the web is
commercial, for-profit, most often pornography.
But there is some material
that appears to be intended to inform and educate.
But even there one is never sure if there is a hidden agenda at work,
or if the material is intended to, somehow,
draw the viewer into profiting, in one way or another,
the purveyor of the information.
It seems to me there is a need for
a Sexual Consumers Reports for the Web,
which would attempt to evaluate the various web sites for slant, bias, accuracy.
(This may already exist, but obviously I am unaware of it.)
What prompted this thought in particular was
thinking about several of the web sites listed in my page on Cunnilingus.
While several of them seem only aimed at high-minded education
(if that phrase can be used for education about cunnilingus!),
there is no evident clue as to who is behind the web page.
Who funded it, and why?
That seems like a reasonable question,
but without evident answer (to me, at any rate).
2010-03-07-WP-Paul
The cost of growing up on pornBy Pamela Paul
Washington Post Outlook, 2010-03-07
[A negative view of the effects of pornography on men.
So far as I could tell she only considers male users/viewers of pornography.]
Sex at Wikipedia
Wikipedia has numerous articles devoted to sex.
Some of the major ones are:
Sexual intercourse
Oral sex
Cunnilingus
List of sex positions
Group sex
Some Useful Web Sites
www.holisticwisdom.com (general information and sales)
Amateur porn on the web
Youtube-like services showing sexual content at no charge, e.g.,
YouPorn
Voyeurweb
Porn 2.0
PornoTube
RedTube
Labels: sex
posted by KHarbaugh at 12:00