What society owes Molly Shattuck


On 2014-11-05, I discovered an article about Molly Shattuck and some charges against her,
charges both in the formal, legal sense
and in the media commentariat.
(Example in the embed of somebody called "Dr. Drew" and a woman
discussing the case below:

Well, you can accuse her of having "personality disorders", "poor impulse control",
and being a threat (!!!???) to young people all you like,
but that sounds both overblown
(Was the young man really injured by her advances? I would not think so.
As to the "poor impulse control" accusation,
any adult woman who stands 5'4" and weighs 110 pounds
has clearly done a great job of controlling her impulses.)
and like it misses the central issue about Molly George Shattuck:
from what I have read about her,
she sounds like an almost ideal mother, wife, and contributor to society.
(Consider the articles about her below,
one written before the accusations against her, one after.)

My answer to the question implicit in the title to this post is:
"A lot."
Being a good mother is no doubt hard, often thankless work.
While the media women are busy cheering what they call "advances" of working women,
when is it that the work of mothers is ever recognized and praised?

I feel Molly Green Shattuck has really given a lot of herself to others.
She has spend a life giving, especially to men.
To me, she sounds almost perfect in so many respects.
It must have been hard work for her, with a lot of self-sacrifice
when she was putting the interests of others ahead of her own.
No doubt many men appreciate the roles she has chosen to play.

But she has been rejected twice by men,
once by her husband, if I am reading the article in People correctly,
and once by the young man she attempted to have sex with.
How must she feel?
Bitter and rejected to say the least.
I just regret that
society doesn't have a better way of appreciating what she has done,
of showing her appreciation,
than to call her all the nasty things she has been called.
If this is what a "Barbie Doll" is, then society needs more of them!

2014 2005 2005

The Unsinkable Molly Shattuck
The home of the former Ravens cheerleader and Constellation Energy's Mayo Shattuck
successfully merges two very different backgrounds.

By Jane Marion
Baltimore Magazine, December 2011

As if on cue at the sound of a knock, Molly Shattuck's children appear at the front door of the palatial Roland Park 1926 brick home she shares with her husband, Mayo Shattuck III, chairman, president, and CEO of Constellation Energy.

"Hi, I'm Spencer," says their 13-year-old son, greeting a visitor with his bright smile. "And I'm Lillian," says her 8-year-old daughter, wearing a pink-and-green Lilly Pulitzer sheath.

"This is Lizzie Mae," says Spencer, introducing the family Maltipoo. And within moments, the middle son, Wyatt, 10, emerges, and offers a handshake befitting the son of a Fortune 500 CEO. Then, with another touch of perfect stage timing, Shattuck herself, a diminutive dynamo with the most boffo body in Baltimore, stands bare foot in the dramatic brick-red foyer in a form-fitting periwinkle dress. "Hi, I'm Molly," she says simply.

With her luggage ready to roll out the front door as the family prepares to leave within hours for the San Francisco wedding of Mayo's oldest son (from his first marriage), Shattuck herself is on a roll these days. She's juggling a new exercise DVD (in which she and her kids demonstrate waist twists and proper jump-rope technique) called The Vibrant Living Workout, as well as an eponymous website (mollyshattuck.com) offering fitness and nutrition tips, recipes, and thoughts on volunteer work.

"The reason I created 'Vibrant Living' is because, for years, people would say, 'What is it you do?'" says the 5-foot, 4-inch, 110-pound Molly, who's now curled up on a pink and white chair in her cheery sunroom, a blue Molly Shattuck-brand, BPA-free water bottle at her side.

"What's the secret? I tell people you have to be well hydrated—I don't drink coffee, tea, or soda," she says. "You have to move your body every day and eat right, but deprivation is not realistic. You have to have a balance of vegetables, proteins, and carbohydrates."

Though she loves being active, Shattuck is a homebody at heart. "I love to be home," she says. "I love to cook, I love to bake, I love to do crafts, and I'd much rather have a dinner party at home than go to a restaurant."

With her storybook home—okay, make that a storybook, five-bedroom, 5.5-bathroom manse with a pool and new exercise room—three kids straight out of central casting (all of whom profess to eat their vegetables!), a milestone career as the oldest cheerleader in NFL history (at the ripe old age of 38), a one-episode stint on Fox's Secret Millionaire, and a husband who happens to be one of the wealthiest men in Baltimore (reported compensation of $15.7 million in 2010, according to The Sun), is it any wonder that everyone wants in on the secrets of the former homecoming queen?

Though she is blonde and beautiful, the real secret behind Molly Shattuck (a ringer for actress Kristin Chenoweth) is that she's not just another pretty face. Growing up in a modest house down the road from her grandparents' farm in Kittanning, PA, she was far from being born with a silver spoon in her mouth. In fact, her parents, married at 18 and 19, probably didn't even own one. "It was nothing fancy," she says, laughing.

"My parents instilled the idea of hard work in us," says the now-44-year-old Shattuck, who was the middle child of three girls. "My mother had a beauty shop for 40 years—it was like Steel Magnolias. I literally grew up in the beauty shop and played with 'curlies'—that's what I called curlers. When I was a newborn baby, my mom went back to work a week later. I grew up running the register at my Dad's gas station and worked in my aunt and uncle's restaurant as a waitress."

Shattuck's childhood was a happy and uncomplicated one. "We rode our bikes every day," says Shattuck. "We played in the creek." And she has always loved to exercise. "We couldn't afford dance lessons," she recalls, "but I taught myself to tap and, in grade school, because tennis and cheerleading were the only options for girls, I was a cheerleader."

By high school, Shattuck had become captain of the cheerleading squad, but even more life-altering, while on a trip to the Grand Canyon in her senior year, she made a vow to herself that she still honors every year—she wrote a bucket list. "I came up with the idea of making a list of 10 things I wanted to do with my life," says Shattuck, "and I still have that list and keep a list to this day. It's like my road map." Among her goals: "I wanted to get married and have a family" (she married Mayo in 1997 and gave birth to Spencer the following year); "I wanted to go to college" (she attended Indiana University of Pennsylvania, where she majored in marketing and business administration); "I wanted to climb Mt. Kilimanjaro" (she completed her ascent in October 2007); "I wanted to be a Dallas Cowboy's cheerleader" (she made the Ravens' team in 2005—close enough).

"I had been pregnant or nursing, pregnant or nursing," says Shattuck. "Right after I stopped nursing Lillian, I said, 'I want to be a Ravens cheerleader.'" When Shattuck first heard about the auditions, she was in Florida. "Mayo called me and said, 'The auditions are on Saturday.' I flew back, but I needed photos, and I didn't even own a bikini. Mayo took pictures of me in a bra and underwear. I was literally standing in our bathroom for them."

After five cuts, Shattuck (she used the name "Molly S." to audition) got her pom poms the old-fashioned way: by earning them. "I didn't want to make it because of his influence," says Shattuck. "I wanted to make it legitimately."

Though she still coaches part-time, ultimately, she hung up her uniform for more time with her moppets. "There's nothing better than looking out at 70,000 fans," says Shattuck, "but it was an easy decision. My kids were 4, 6, and 8 at the time, and I needed to be there for them."


Shattuck, who met her husband as a marketing associate when she literally bumped into him at Alex. Brown & Sons while walking backwards out of a colleague's office, fills her hours with charity work and volunteers with her children, whether building hoop houses at Real Food Farm or making sandwiches for local soup kitchens. One of her more recent projects: orchestrating a partnership between United Way of Central Maryland and Baltimore City and environs to focus on making affordable, fresh food available to underserved communities in Baltimore.

"It's about raising awareness," says Shattuck, who is donating part of the proceeds from her fitness video to the project. "There's nothing more basic than healthy food, and it's what people aren't putting into their bodies that is making them sick."

Though Shattuck could certainly be living a life of idle luxury, she instead contributes to the community nearly every waking hour, not just with money, but with her time, too. She and Mayo are co-chairs of the United Way of Central Maryland. She's a member of the Board of Overseers at the Baltimore School for the Arts and is on the national advisory board for the The Johns Hopkins Children's Center, to name just a couple of causes. In fact, her extensive involvement has earned her several awards for her charitable work.

Shattuck sees volunteer work as something that should be an integral part of raising a family. "You have to teach your kids to volunteer at a young age and make it part of their lives," she believes. "It teaches them to be nice to everyone. It teaches them values in a real sense and not just the words."

It's a lesson the down-to-earth Shattuck learned firsthand from her own childhood. "I never would have dreamed any of this," says Shattuck standing next to an exquisite inlaid buffet in the dining room. "Things make people temporarily happy, but it's really all about who you are and how you live your life and doing things with a purpose."

Friend Reacts to the Molly Shattuck Sex Scandal: 'It Really Boggles the Mind'
By Steve Helling
People, 2014-11-12

From the outside, Molly Shattuck appeared to live a charmed life.

Blonde and athletic, she was a pillar of her Baltimore community. Married since 1997 to mulitimillionaire Mayo Shattuck III, she lived in a well-kept mansion and raised three children, perfectly spaced two years apart from each other. She was devoted to exercise and clean eating. At 47, she still had a bikini body.

"She just had it all together,"
Laura Lancaster, who volunteered at some of the same charities as Shattuck did, tells PEOPLE.
"She dressed immaculately.
Her children were beautiful and they were dressed immaculately.
Her SUV was always shiny and perfectly clean inside.
She was always busy but always had a smile on her face.
I wanted her life; everyone did."

But Shattuck's life was far from perfect,
a fact everyone learned when she was accused of
having sex with a 15-year-old boy she met on Instagram.

The headlines practically wrote themselves. Shattuck, who had become a media sensation in 2005 when she became an NFL cheerleader at the age of 38, was back in the public eye. News outlets from Brazil to India covered the story.

"It has been surreal," Lancaster says.
"This is the same woman who went to PTA meetings
and volunteered for charities,
and now she's accused of doing something awful.
It really boggles the mind."

A Faltering Marriage

Several sources tell PEOPLE that
Mayo and Molly Shattuck had separated more than a year before her arrest,
although their divorce became final last week.

"The marriage just wasn't working out," a family friend says.
"They stayed together for a long time, even when it wasn't working.
It was hard on her to see her marriage falling apart,
and I think she would have gone back to him if he had asked.
She was struggling."

Adding to her struggles:
her husband, 60, had moved on and was seeing someone new.
"I'm not excusing anything she might have done,"
the family friend says,
"but it was a rough time for her.
She wasn't dealing with it well."

Shocking Allegations

Shattuck is accused of having sexual contact with a 15-year-old boy over Labor Day weekend,
according to court documents obtained by PEOPLE.
She has been charged with two counts of third-degree rape
and four additional charges of second-degree unlawful sexual contact.
She is also accused of providing beer to the victim and two other boys.

Shattuck's friends are reeling over the accusations.

"If you had asked me a month ago to describe Molly,
I would have told you that she's totally devoted to [her children],"
the family friend says.
"She would rather die than hurt her children,
which is why this hit me like a ton of bricks.
The Molly I knew wasn't capable of doing this."

Adds Lancaster:
"I read the accusations and couldn't believe what I was reading.
It just doesn't add up to make any sense.
I've never been so shocked in all my life."

Community Fallout

The news of the arrest reverberated through
the private school Shattuck's children attend –
and where she used to volunteer her time.
The headmaster of the school,
which charges between $24,350 and $27,100 per year for tuition,
sent a letter to the families of all the students.

"Information regarding alleged inappropriate behavior by a current parent towards a student was brought to my attention on September 24," he wrote. "I immediately reported the allegations to the Baltimore County Police Department. … The parent has been prohibited from entering the campus and additional security measures have been in place."

The letter blindsided many of the families whose children attended the school.
"It sounds like something you'd see in a soap opera,"
says Rose Herrera, whose grandson attends the high school.
"I can't say that I'm shocked that this type of thing happens in other places,
but I was surprised that it happened at that school."

Molly Shattuck resigned from all positions on numerous nonprofit charity boards. She sent a letter to the American Diabetes Association, where she had served as an outreach coordinator, and said that she was resigning "to devote more time with family." The United Way of Central Maryland also removed her from its board. "She will no longer participate in any volunteer activities," the group said in a statement.

Shattuck is out on $84,000 bond. As she prepares for a long legal process, friends tell PEOPLE that, guilty or not guilty, her life has changed permanently.

"I was most surprised because she had worked so hard for everything,"
the family friend says.
"She just seemed too logical to throw it all away like that."